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JAPANESE GIRLS ARE A PAIN! What Problems Japanese boys have dating girls

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Troubles and issues Japanese boys have when dating girls in Japan. We asked several boys in Japan what makes dating hard in Japan and what problems they have with Japanese girls. ▶SUBSCRIBE TO OUR CHANNEL FOR MORE VIDEOS!! http://www.youtube.com/c/AskJapanese?sub_confirmation=1
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enkitoo (1 day ago)
lol in which way is this different from other countries :o girls want presents always and at all times or they have a feeling you don't care enough for them, they are constantly cautious about who you meet and about what you speak. also planing the date completely is also like this in every country i have been so far. that's also not really something special just to japanese girls :s
Hillmidget (2 days ago)
No point in having the introduction in english if there sint aubtittles. Just do it in japanese if your gunah do all the rest in japanese
Antonieta Amosella (2 days ago)
aniversary every month? 😂😂 i think only teenagers do that
Itsme. Cindy (3 days ago)
The first group was like ahhh we know that girl lol
Dahlia (3 days ago)
And here I'm just looking for someone who's good at fps and rpg and willing to make an account in the same game I'm playing... who I also happen to meet in real life every now and then... by that I mean like maybe every few months lol. Let's order take out and play video games.
SophiaKT (4 days ago)
They literally started checking out that girl at 5:27 I’m weak😂
YCA G. (5 days ago)
When u see the difference between anime and the real thing....😂😂
6:59 so y'all gonna ignore the legend in the background?
sashay periwinkler (7 days ago)
One of my co-workers told me he couldn't be my friend outside of work because his girlfriend didn't like me. I've never met her before, associated with her in any way, or shown any reason to give her concern I would be a problem. I only had him added on Instagram and he had to delete me... (I never even had his phone number and I know/work with him for a year and a half) It was hurtful but I got over it, I just don't understand how a relationship is worth it to someone where your social life is controlled.
Heighwire McCain (7 days ago)
6:59
HeyFamItsCam (7 days ago)
6:59 the guy in the background did a peace to the camera XD
Michaela McNulty (7 days ago)
What?! Really?! The boys gotta do everything??? Dang, I feel bad for yall. Things have to be equal, if not fifty-fifty at least share the thing somewhere.
K...so am I a guy or what 'cause I fully agree on whatever the japanese boys said Or am I being unromantic and all...😅😅 FYI..I am a girl and I LOVE Japan🇯🇵 🙆❤
emily thao (10 days ago)
don't count on me to remember how many days it is since we start dating. if we're dating, we are dating. hek i remember my birthday the week b4 the actual day and the day when the happy birthday messages come i'm all like "it's not my birth....oh wait it is..." i'm the most unromantic speck of dust anyone can meet.
Aniri S (10 days ago)
how about a translation...
Maerchenlaenderin (11 days ago)
Seriously, acting like that would be far too tiring... What kind of girls have these guys met?!
TheMATEMAGICIAN (11 days ago)
why no subtitles?
shaghayegh nozari (12 days ago)
Please put subtitles for videos
TheFameMonster7XD (12 days ago)
"Anything is fine" . It never does...
mangaka08 (12 days ago)
Basically, problems you run into in nearly every country.
Sol Kiyoko (14 days ago)
1:15 Shit thats Tomu..he was a guy I went to high school before moving to Hiroshima lol
Sol Kiyoko (14 days ago)
My friend dated him haha for 2 years
Arc Light (14 days ago)
Females are a PITA everywhere. You could have the exact same interviews in any country.
prashantmayo (15 days ago)
It would be a miracle if a girl talks to me for more than 2 minutes. Imagine whole night.
That ex the silver haired guy was talking about really angered me😠 REALLY why did she talk behind his back after breaking up!? That’s a little stupid of her😒
Ha! Jokes on you! Ive been single all my life >:D ;-;
Flare724 (20 days ago)
Those girls are not waifu materials
Haziq Zuhair (24 days ago)
I think it's almost the same in any other countries, no?
Juil (27 days ago)
3:57 That in-sync reaction. We all know that feeling.
Shawnie Lynn (1 month ago)
For starters it seems like these boys are meeting all the wrong girls... I have met MANY girls like that and i cant stand it... Kinda why i get along btr with men mostly... And 2...i haaate how girls play mind games... Men have a more simple mind...and thats not bad its just normal...and if a girl doesnt say exactly what she means, then he doesnt do what she wanted, theirs a fight. JUST SAY WHAY U R THINKING LADIES...lol. (My mom does it to my dad...sooo annoying!...) Also that guy with all the piercings in all black...he was...WOW...very very attractive and might i say sexy. 😉
Gary Colonna (1 month ago)
I hate how catty cat is engaging in such blatant cultural appropriation how offensive to Japanese people everywhere! I mean she totally stole part of their aboriginal culture with no remorse and now she goes around interviewing these poor people who have no clue she is racist by stealing their culture via cultural appropriation. REPORTED. Because honestly this video should be age restricted due to all the racism, SORRY. Tolerance for all except for RACIST BIGOTS like you.
Akeno Koneko (1 month ago)
I just told my boyfriend on valentine's that I hate anniversaries or special days and that I'd rather just do special things when we feel like it, he was more than happy :')
it's not ogre (1 month ago)
I'm a girl, i don't like talking in a long tine, or even get a long message Do you think i can get a boyfriend?
Japanese boys are so awkward....
Sofía (1 month ago)
Girls can be toxic and abusive in relationships too, just like the girls who the first guys says about, it's not funny or fair, it's a problem, just like when a men does it. If he/she doesn't let you talk or see others is not good for you, that's not normal
Shirin Hasan (1 month ago)
I think it's fine to want someone to plan a date. I think generally there is some give and take of dominance in a relationship. This can occur along culturally defined gender role lines, yes, but I think it will sometimes vary depending on the dynamics of that particular relationship. Controlling behavior is not acceptable if you are to take a passive role in planning dates and such. I think that's the problem here: the hypocritical mindset these experiences reflect. Inflexibility seems to be a _worldwide_ problem when it comes to dating, wherein there will sometimes be some stepping out of one's general role in the relationship-- say, if your boyfriend usually plans dates but you guys want to go out right after his exams and he doesn't have time to plan a date. Also, whether you're a boy or girl, if you don't want to get friendzoned, come in hot and heavy! Show romantic and sexual interest right away! I think friendzoning can sometimes come from ego preservation, so if you meet someone and there is a mutual attraction, sometimes the object of your attraction may not feel desired based on your interactions. That person might be playing it cool because they haven't received any indication that you're interested! Yes, that begs the question, "Why don't _they_ make a move first?" For most people, I think making the first move comes down to whether your level of attraction makes the potential rejection worthwhile.
Anthony Noriega (1 month ago)
I feel like a lot of these problems can be solved or avoided altogether had there been proper communication (both ways!) before AND DURING the relationship. Its important to get to know who someone is before committing to being in a romantic relationship with them, and be willing to make (some) compromises to keep the relationship from falling apart. You shouldn't have to give up everything you love for them, including your friends and family and belongings, but sometimes your attitude towards things is in dire need of change, and it may not be noticeable from your perspective, but instead from the perspective of another, so trust them to have your best interests in mind. One of the most important things as well is trust. Trust your partner to do right by you, and you will have it returned. If they take advantage of that trust, then they were never right for you to begin with, and its better to end that relationship earlier rather than later.
tarael86 (1 month ago)
Watching this was pretty depressing.
Ms Spears (1 month ago)
This is no different than girls or women around the world. Just don't get into a relationship if your not ready.
Karl Hans (1 month ago)
Majority girls in asia like that lah...
Bloodshot199 (1 month ago)
Holy moly
Angelique Burk (1 month ago)
The way I see it, as long as you have love and trust in your partner, there shouldn't be any problems with them having their own space (ex: letting your bf/gf hang out with friends, going out etc.) and its understandable that certain decisions when it comes to going out, its best to be mutual about it. In my experience I wouldn't want my bf always to decide everything or do so much for me. As long as he is himself, and is open-minded about doing certain activities etc. that's perfectly fine with me, and as for remembering anniversaries and stuff like that, lol I'd have to agree with the guys on this one; sometimes its hard to remember and to constantly give gifts every month is way to much, I'd rather have my future partner use his money for his responsibilities and things he needs then having to worry about getting me anything. truthfully just having my future partner there with me is more then enough. at least to me that's how I'd feel.
duck butt-lol (1 month ago)
Am I the only one who doesnt have any subtitles in the video for some reason and they are talking In japanese even thought the video's title is in English and Im like wtf!??
An yee (1 month ago)
It's not the problem with japanese girls, is just problem with girls in general lmao
c (1 month ago)
6:48 we need his instagram💀
エマのせかい! (1 month ago)
I know he’s sooo pretty!
Best solution: *Don't get a girlfriend*
Daisuke 大輔 (1 month ago)
you speak good japanese, for me no problem date japanese girls, prefer Japanese boys _へ__(‾◡◝ )>
Peng ischubby (1 month ago)
I think I'm japanese guy..we feel the same way :( I'm a 20 year old girl tho
deredereGachaNeko (1 month ago)
If Japanese girls are a pain then I'm writing a poem to my crush Dear you know who, why exactly would you like HER after seeing the video? I'm black,curvy,AND cute. Thank you for listening to my TED talk.
Ringyaphi Sharon (1 month ago)
You, so pretty 😍
Andrew Ross (1 month ago)
I do what I want and she just tag's along. It becomes a relationship straight away, automatically - I don't ask women out, we already are going out - That's how it is with me. If I'm not interested in her then it becomes a friend zone(I don't take the steps)..........Come's down to It's my life, my rules
Malinea (1 month ago)
6:59 in the Background XD
Second (1 month ago)
About the guys need to make all the plans during dating. Ironically, when they get married, the wife need to plan and prepare and manage almost ALL the stuffs in their marriage and financial and kids education - everything, while the husband only need to go to the office/job.
Volve (1 month ago)
I friend zoned her before she friend zone me . Girl can be toxic in America
Miria_No6 (1 month ago)
I think the problem is that you always interview weird people.
timepickle (1 month ago)
There is a reason why this is happening. Most Japanese males are closed off. They complain and sulk even about simple things like saying "I love you" or holding hands. Girls need emotional intimcy. Because they are not getting it they become extra clingy. Honestly if its like pulling teeth to make a simple declaration of love and be kind and supportive towards another person you shouldn't be in a relationship. Strong independent women value themselves enough to not put up with this emotional bs and cut their losses and leave if they get into a relationship with this type of guy. The guy then complains that women "are only after money" though he himself is only after sex lol. Only girls who have low selfesteem remain in relationships with such guys. And even then the guys complain.
Barbarella Studio (1 month ago)
Well, a lot of that its similar here in chile, here its still the culture of the male hunter so if the girl dont let the boy do efforts well... She'll be consider an "easy" women and not worth it. Girls are complicate and jealous too, but the difference is that we do like to plan things together with our partners and lots of us dont expect male to pay everything.
Satoshi483 (1 month ago)
This camera quality is amazing
Aculeatus (1 month ago)
The anniversaries thing seems overboard, I forgot my own and I've been with the same guy for seven years lol
Red Rose (1 month ago)
Japanese men are very shy! I don’t like shy guy😃
T. B. (1 month ago)
Very cute host, but please blend your makeup...it looks really harsh in HD when it is not blended properly.
T. B. (1 month ago)
Hello cutie passerby @ 0:46!
Chacha (1 month ago)
LMAOOO aren’t these common in any relationship? I’m so lazy to date LOL. But guy at 4:43 send me yo digits. We can go on “I’m lazy dates”.
PoIsOnDiVx (1 month ago)
Thank god I'm gay
Farrah Vanezza (1 month ago)
Very interesting answers. 笑... That was fun and inciting.
mayoi neko (2 months ago)
why do you need to celebrate every month, anniversary is annual, its once a year, and its not really important anyway i never remember this thing myself
Harry McNicholas (2 months ago)
Why is she wearing a female version of a Ralphie suit?
Sharif Sourour (2 months ago)
Agree with your opinion about equal responsibility in relationships.
Ted Sweeran (2 months ago)
I have the same problems in Italy :(
Reyhan Pekin (2 months ago)
Except their appearance, they r just like Turkish girls
nil tuna (2 months ago)
3:20 FUCK ME *EVERY MONTH???* i genuinely thot this dude was complaining about celebrating anniversaries every year but JESUS
RinnaRoo (2 months ago)
They just described alot of the same issues with American relationships..
E A (2 months ago)
People who just talk about conversations that you had with them for their own personal gain like it means nothing - are honestly the most horrible people...especially if they are sensitive and personal topics. This is why many people have trust issues, why must they hurt others so badly?
Eri fu (2 months ago)
7:00 i see u boi
Mango (2 months ago)
6:03 guy with glasses hanging is cute
Leen Jordan (2 months ago)
I thought the first group and 3rd one are gays, I think the shirt guy at 4:22 is originally a female? Us this possible in Japan?
Malaise Tv (2 months ago)
I think some guys are gay ?
Sora Gen Next (2 months ago)
I'm a woman and I don't understand that anniversary thing. I mean, every year I might remember? But half a month and two days? One week? I can't with that. I can barely remember what I need to do on a day to day basis to be worried about each little anniversary.
Law Licht (2 months ago)
My problems in dating girls is that no girls want to date me
KARNOLD LAIPHRAKPAM (2 months ago)
It's not only in Japan. It's a law more complex than time theory.
Ka Mo (2 months ago)
How are you so fluent in Japanese? Are you a native Japanese speaker? If not, what methods did you use to learn Japanese?
Scott C. (2 months ago)
Subs?
Ms Dony * (2 months ago)
if you feel a girl is to needy than you dont promise just one girlfriend, you date several & be honest about it. Also ladies, listen to these guys worries. Ladies take the lead sometimes. Be their friend & let them fall in love with you..that sounds like what they want, looking for the right lady.
ro om (2 months ago)
Just Racist reporter
Sanjay Kumar Verma (2 months ago)
MORAL: CONFESS A JAPANESE GIRL ON 29TH FEBRUARY.
Kyo Kusanagi (2 months ago)
5:23, the guy who is getting interviewed is talking about not knowing how emphasize to their girlfriends there there is a difference between the girl the want to hang out with, and the one they want to go out on a date with. But then the other two guys are TOTALLY checking a girl passing by. Ok, point taken. HAHA
Tsukiakari (2 months ago)
They all look so cool, I'm european and i look like shit compared to them wtf
George Costarica (2 months ago)
Shes interviewing guys that havent been on dates before
RaDD C (2 months ago)
Seems like the Japanese don’t get it. “Life is pain. And pain? Is *EVERYTHING*.” Besides they’re not alone. Women suggest something, but it always falls on the man to actual plan out and execute the suggestion. A real hassle after a while.
Awarena Onanako331 (2 months ago)
6:57 the dude in the background tho XDD
lexi Rios (2 months ago)
The guy on the left at 6:23, with the white tee, looks like a comic book character.
TheBanana669 (2 months ago)
Also many boys dont like their girlfriend gonna share time with other boys if they really love her ....japan dont need to get example from the western culture for everything and its better that way
Niamh Sievers (2 months ago)
I saw "I struggle to fall in love" and I'm like *GOOD HAVE STANDARDS, BUT DONT TRICK YOURSELF INTO THINKING YOURE TOO GOOD FOR SOMEONE*
Malaise Tv (2 months ago)
+Niamh Sievers I agree 😍😍😍 so georgeous :)
Niamh Sievers (2 months ago)
+Malaise Tv I swear to God, why are so many Asians gorgeous?
Malaise Tv (2 months ago)
Probably gay ? Its maybe the reason why he struggles for dating a girl... Btw he is really cute :)
kiraine (2 months ago)
that lady is dressed up like a mega weeb
Sha Rannn (2 months ago)
1:50 this guy
Angie Rodriguez (2 months ago)
Alguien que hable español ?
Mad R (2 months ago)
6:50 doesn’t look japanese 😮
Dreaming Girl (2 months ago)
Ja bym nie zadzwoniła do chłopaka w środku nocy xdd
Estephany Matos (2 months ago)
I would die if I had to celebrate an anniversary monthly
Alisson Salher (2 months ago)
Me gusta porque tiene sub en español 😘 Gracias 🌸
Nani U.U (2 months ago)
I think that all the girls around the World are the same

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