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Mistakes People Make After No Contact (And How To Fix Them!)

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http://www.BreakupBrad.com -- Mistakes People Make After No Contact Hi guys… in this video, I’m going to talk to you about some of the massive mistakes people make after they have finished the “no contact” period. My name is Brad Browning, I’m a relationship expert and breakup coach from Vancouver, Canada. You may recognize me from some of of other YouTube videos, or have heard about my best selling The Ex Factor Guide program that teaches those like yourself how to rebuild their relationships and get their ex back. Learn more about my program at BreakupBrad.com. So let’s get right into it. By now, I’m sure you’ve heard about the “no contact” strategy to win your ex back. It’s something I talk a lot about in The Ex Factor Guide because it’s such an effective technique. Generally speaking, the no contact phase lasts 30 days, but to some extent it does depend on your unique situation. During this time, it’s crucial that you have no communication with your ex whatsoever. This means no drunk texting your ex, no liking their status updates on Facebook, and no phone calls whatsoever. Many people think they have a good reason to talk to their ex during the no contact period, but the reality is that you should avoid contacting them at all costs during this time. If your ex is like most people, after a period of time without you in their life they’ll quickly start to miss you. The negative memories that caused your breakup in the first place will fade away and be replaced by the more positive aspects of the past relationship. Once these feelings have peaked, your ex will be much more likely to respond to your attempts to rebuild a new relationship together. The time apart from your ex during the no contact period will allow you both to heal, cool-down, and get level headed. It will create a void for your ex to miss you, make them wonder what you’re up to and how you’re doing. At the same time it works as damage control, leaving no room for arguments, disrespect or bad attitudes towards one another. You will both have your space to get organized, fix your bad habits and allow you time create a plan of action to get your ex back. What you say and how you say it after your no contact period ends is crucial. For example, if you’re trying to win your ex back and you unintentionally imply that you want to get back together for your sake, then it’s not going to happen. This is why it’s so important to work on bettering yourself during the no contact period. You need to find happiness and confidence in yourself before reaching out to your ex again. No matter how much you feel like you need them, you need to portray that while it’d be nice to get back together, you can in fact live without them. *** More from Brad Browning: *** Ex Factor Guide: http://www.exfactorguide.com Love Learnings: http://www.lovelearnings.com Google+: http://www.google.com/+BradBrowning Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/bbrowning Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/brad_browning Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/bradbrowning
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Justin Cruz (1 year ago)
Yo Brad, just wanna let you know your videos are great and are really helpful! Keep doing whatchu doing! Happy new year
quang huy nguyen vu (4 months ago)
Shelly Sachdeva i think you should wait to make him want you more
Shelly Sachdeva (5 months ago)
Brad Browning I had a breakup with my ex in February starting.. and as per your guidelines I followed 30 days no contact..but a month ago approx he texted twice and we had a casual 10 min chat.. what to do now? Should I text him or wait for him to text me?
Monika Raswal (1 hour ago)
Thanks giving advice ☺️ ... Plz tell me how to msg him 🤔
Jan Crayper (3 days ago)
So I sent a bad text, right after we split up, then blocked him so not even sure if he replied...its been about 2-3 weeks now. Is it too late to send that apology text you mentioned? If so, do I start all over with the no contact period?
AD7 SKILLS (7 days ago)
My gf just told me to end everything today n she told dont call me anymore n i told her ok if u r happy with that ill be happy tooo but the truth is i cant live without her what should i do
Hi  I got break up on August 23 2018 . I begged and pleaded then walked away . I followed no contact . After a week she called me . I attend her call and talked.  But she talked without an interest so I cut her call and followed no contact .  On September 14, she came my home and saw me . I talked her face to face but no use .  On some gaps she called and messaged me . But I did not reply.   Before few days she told we will marry . Go to job soon . After 2 years meet my parents and ask them permission.  Then we marry .  On October 7 2018 . She called me and told.  We marry with our parents permission . If they not accept I won't marry. I thought she confused herself .  So I told we will marry after 2 years . Till that we won't call and message each other.   She said ok .  On the next day Oct 8 . She called me 6 times on evening . I did not attend her call . Now I am in no contact from October 8 2018 . What do I want to do ? Plz give me a suggestion . Do the needful  My birthday is coming on October 26 2018 . Shall I wait for her till my birthday and start conversation with her . Till that shall I be in no contact? What do you say ?
Christina Baldivino (9 days ago)
So we already said we would be friends but havent talked to him yet
Andy Croon (9 days ago)
This is a narc dream come true. You just fed a pathological dangerous person.
sahil alam (10 days ago)
will she call me after no contact if i have irritated her by calls msg and chasing her plz help
I got passed the no contact period and was able to set up a coffee date for Tuesday. It’s Friday. Should I contact her in between?
Julie Lacanivalu (14 days ago)
Hi brad,what can we do if we havent broken up yet but its almost there...but u love her and wana save the relationship....
Mr99RICH99 (14 days ago)
What if she has gotten back with another ex in that 30 day period
Jay Davis (15 days ago)
My ex texts me now but she seems to try friend zoning and seems to have an idc attitude what should I do, how do I approach her
Ian Diru (15 days ago)
the question i am asking why would one go back to their ex after being treated like trash?
Priyanka mahale (16 days ago)
Sir i really need ur help coz i really dont know what to do
Kumar Apurv (18 days ago)
Hey Brad.. I had read your book and it helped me, my ex called me during the no contact period. By her behaviour it seems like she misses me. She again called me for the next three days and we talked normally. But the last day when she called me she said me not to think too much that she about getting us together and she hadn't called me or text me afterwards. Please tell me what to do now...
Sahrish Hassan (19 days ago)
My ex called me within 3 days of no contact i picked his call nd talk only necessary things... but i am afraid if i had done anything wrong by doing this ? Plz help brad
adaravi1997 (20 days ago)
Hi brad. I have sent my ex a sms after one month of no contact after the breakup. After a light cold texting, she told me start dating new a new guy. We broke up just a mounth ago after 3 years of good relantionship, its just wierd that she has replace me so easy. What should i do?
lil rabbit (29 days ago)
After 1 month of no contact i broke the no contact i was getting good responses from my ex but i start texting him and even make a movie plan and eventually i show decline in his responses as if i am getting in friendzone so i have started no contact again! Is no contact successful second time?
Brad Browning (7 hours ago)
Friends for now, but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: http://y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to know that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
lil rabbit (12 days ago)
+Felix Chavez i did 25 days strict no contact ..it was hell period for me.. though we r still not together as a couple cos i brk the no contact early but it really improved my situation He is giving me more importance and i am also more better than what i was at day 1
Felix Chavez (12 days ago)
lil rabbit how has it been for you?
Felix Chavez (12 days ago)
lil rabbit we broke up like a month ago
lil rabbit (12 days ago)
How much time it has been since your breakup
Moon Vibe (1 month ago)
Hi Brad, do you think it's a good idea to start a conversation via phone/messages with your ex after the no contact, or you should wait her to call/message you? I totally agree with the no contact phase, but after these 30days, who should take the first step?
Brad Browning (6 days ago)
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_XAgHjaFM This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI Good luck!
Cash Money (1 month ago)
Make a video on what to do after no contact, what to say and all a complete plan
Brad Browning (6 days ago)
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_XAgHjaFM This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI Good luck!
Belltown Daisy (1 month ago)
Thank you! Very useful. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago.
maël Franc (1 month ago)
No contact worked! Me met today but how can i get him back if he has a new girlfriend who he has much more memories and love her more than he ever loved me
Do Right (2 months ago)
The more you want, The less you have. For if you stop wanting. you find you have everything you need. Tao Te jing.
RK NONGMIN (2 months ago)
Watching your videos make's me feel encouraged Thank-you Brad Browning 😍😘
xnesxdivacoowner (3 months ago)
I came home on Sunday afternoon and I got on Facebook and then I got a friend request and then I accept it and then he still is on my friends list and I do love him and I do want to get him back and then his pastors wife called me and threatened me told me that I need to stop calling him on his phone but then he was the one that texted me on Thursday and then he wanted me to text him a pic and then that was when his pastors wife got a hold of me and threatened me told me that she would have him take me to court. Can he do that.
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
Sounds like a very complicated situation. Consider moving on from this.
foyiz (3 months ago)
No contact for 5 days was enough for her to forget me 😓😓.than she messaged me saying she don't want to be with me anymore. How she can forget me me so quick .why it's easy for her to move on and so hard for me.its happend two months ago but I still feel hurt sad .she decide to break up with me because I am jealous .I agree I am jealous because I love her a load .I promise her to try to not be jealous but she don't want to listen to me anymore. I asked for second chance but she said I am away 😢😢😢
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
Watch this first if you haven't already: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8T1wX8D48Qg
Vignesh Padmasai (3 months ago)
Hey! I saw your videos and it's good. I broke up with my ex before 45 days in between I ruined everything . And I saw your videos and now I am on my 18 days of complete no contact. When I started my no contact she unblocked me on Instagram four times. And after that I heard from my friends that she is talking with in guy. I got pissed and I asked . She is like totally angry on me. I was following her on the road. She shouted on me. And I went . And she told that u r irritating me and I don't want to see your face . Just get lost like that. So I decided not to disturb her again . Now I am on my 18 day of no contact. And today is her birthday. I don't know what to do? .I don't have any hope that she will talk to me after 31 days of no contact. How can I know that she is not angry on me? And she blocked me on all social media so how can I reach her? Can you please help me out of this situation? I guess I screwed up so many times and I made her so angry. How long I have to wait? And how will I see the changes on her? Thank you!!
Vignesh Padmasai (1 month ago)
+Brad Browning thank you so much for take your time off to reply to my text. Always be thankful to you!!
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
Hi there! Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Victoria Girl (3 months ago)
How long does it take for them to miss you in the no contack fase
Victoria Girl (1 month ago)
+Brad Browning my ex csme back in 2 weeks and then he stoped talking to me again so idk anymore about him
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
30 days on average. Watch what I've talked about here: www.breakupbrad.com
jefri dickson (3 months ago)
Hey brad, not sure if you are gonna read this but Its been 5 years and I'm not over my ex. The first 2 years, I rarely contact her but recently I contacted her to see how she's doing and she seems to bringing our past in the conversation. Is that a good thing?
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
I'm not sure if you've already seen this but this may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CakOOSwIiY
Andria Fernandes (3 months ago)
Hey there! I'm trying to work on this no contact period. And in trying hard but I'm afraid that he may get into another relationship 😔. And he posting some stuff online about Karma but he is the one who broke up for no reason. And the main thing is he is in abroad and we had a long distance relationship 😫. Please tell me what to do.
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
Sorry to hear that. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQY4N04uvtA&t=4s and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5nfWRJRrnAs&t=10s
Abhishek Kumar (3 months ago)
Hey! after no contact if i dont get any respont should i text or keep waiting? Thanks
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
Here's a quick overview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgR03RcU8mw   Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). There are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI
Victor Nogueira (3 months ago)
Hi, Brad! I am trying to follow the 30 day no contact rule, but my ex sent me a message asking why I disappeared. When she broked up with me she wanted us to be friends. And now when I am trying to not have a contact she is telling she miss me. Idk what I should say or even do. Do I keep following the no contact rule ? And if I do, what should a say to her? Thanks for your advices e congrats for your incredible job! Best regards from Brazil!
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
It's a terrible idea to be friends with her. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yd6pvNVeHjI and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sS4V4IOcOgs but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
mała owieczka (3 months ago)
What is he texted me after 3 days of no contact, I didn't text him back but he started texting my two best friends and asking how am I etc. What should I do now?
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
This really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? If not, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgOG9s1fac8
ben Broeckx (3 months ago)
I am in the fading fast state.. What to do?
Brad Browning (1 month ago)
Acting fast means you play your cards right from the get-go and not mess things up further, basically. Here's a quick overview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgR03RcU8mw It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
quang huy nguyen vu (4 months ago)
What if after 30 days ,my ex doesn't text me or call me, 😂 😷
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
Here's a quick overview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgR03RcU8mw   Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). There are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI
zoki SHADY (4 months ago)
pls help me out I need your think. sge dumped me and I beg her and nothing. she need a time space and that kind of shit and after that I take her phone and she start begging me for her phone I known somphing is not ok. and then her ex boyfriend but we have been 2years in relationship and she only have been 4months and he never stop for her. and he call on her phone in the moment when the phone was in me I called and I say I will talk to you later and he came on the place weve been and talk abot it I was so cold like a fisg I was so disappointed and I say to her ok give me.back my stuf that I gift you she geve me but not all of them I burn them and I saw the no contact rule and I have been 3days but I couldn't hang anymore and I say I want to see you and we talk and I give her all the chatbof fb from my friend that he teaches me and I know that is not good but I want to be unes to her and she told me that for her bday she sleep with her ex home and now I saw it was a lie and I slap her and now I rule all the no contact rule is there any chance pls tell me :(
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
Go by the golden rules here as much as possible: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kJ1ybuFIHE     It may or may not be too late, but it’s definitely time to move forward from whatever mistakes you've made and not repeat those! Don’t be so hard on yourself, though, since this is a fairly common issue and most people are guilty of this at some point. If you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Abi Syarillizam (4 months ago)
What if I accidentally met my ex in an event (birthday party etc) during the no contact period? What should i do?
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
This should help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDZrnNh8LOg
Hail KingDidii (4 months ago)
Hi brad. It's being 2 months since I started the no contact and in this 2 months I've only gotten a call from my ex which he pretended not to know about on facebook( cos he said nothing when I answered and so did i) and a call from his friend telling me to call him(3 days ago) that my ex has male pride and that's why he won't reach out. It was a 3 year relationship and I heard he brought a girl home a week after I left. It was also a very intense and passionate relationship. My question is what do I do now, will he still love me? He hurt my feelings but is acting like I hurt his feelings cos I left. Do i call him ? I miss him or do I just continue with the NC. ??? Please respond please
Brad Browning (2 months ago)
One thing that most people don't realize is that they hold the key. Have you been actively trying to get your ex back? Don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgR03RcU8mw and it's best to go by the golden rules here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kJ1ybuFIHE Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Roop Singh Thakur (4 months ago)
Sir .. plz give me some advice on my situation.... Sir my has blocked me on all the social networking sites ... We are fighting from last 5 months... And in whole period she is very very rude and she dont want to clear anything and dont want to talk about anything...the only sentence which she say regularly is ... I dont want talk to you and its over..... This situation is same from last 5-6 months . . Help me out sir plzzz
Roop Singh Thakur (2 months ago)
Brad Browning sir ... I have started no contact rule from 5 june till 28 july .... But i think it doesn't work..and i have done all the things which you told in videos.., she is my class mate and she has blocked me from every where.. so only way to talk her again was to straight face to face ...so on 29 july when i approached her just by saying hi... Firstly she ignored me then i repeated 2-3 hey i was just hi ..then we have done some chats . That time she was comfortable, but on nxt day when i said hi then she again ignored me and said PlZzz go... I dont wannna talk to u why you are not uderstanding .... And we have 1common friend named janhavi, (when i was in no contact period, my friend use say that .. no contact is working... If bimistaken if my topic starts she shows interest in it, but that day when i approached her , and you know what happened next , i have already told that above. And then on 31 july when my ex, and janhavi were talking , janhavi stated my topic in front of her.. as our test result were out day... I dont what talked ,but my ex said to her that "plz janhavi try to understand that i dont want to talk with him, so better go and explain this to me and you also understand, and she also said he have shouted on me every time..so go) So sir i dont know what to do now.....Sir rply me fast:(
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication. More about that on here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UT92IB5ugs&t=300s Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1GpR5MApQk Good luck!
Rose An (4 months ago)
Do i need to change my password immidiately when i do NC?
Rose An (3 months ago)
Brad Browning thank you hehe we already got back together thank you!! It really helped me alot hehe
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Change it the minute you break up.
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
If your ex knows about it, yes!
Enkosi M (4 months ago)
I broke up with my partner and suggested become friends. I tried the no contact rule for three days and I broke it, we gone back to talking as friends and she invites me for dates. She responds after hours hen we text and still want us to get along as friends. Is it safe to go back to the no contact rule?
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
It's a terrible idea to be friends with her. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yd6pvNVeHjI and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sS4V4IOcOgs but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
michal maystar (4 months ago)
I have a problem my ex is hanging around with friends every single day and I'm afraid that he will forget me and replace me with his friends what can I do about it?
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Here are  the basics to getting an ex boyfriend back:  http://y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a man thinks and understanding men in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at http://www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy
Ankit Chakraborty (4 months ago)
hey brad i have scored 69 in your online quiz , can i get my ex back ... i love her
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Acting fast means you play your cards right from the get-go and not mess things up further, basically. Here's a quick overview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgR03RcU8mw It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Mssi Chhangte (4 months ago)
i love you brad
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Love you too!
Questions attention (4 months ago)
Nice bro
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
I appreciate the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it, too! :-)
Dawn Chon (4 months ago)
Is no contact effective if the relationship is just short term?
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
It's 50-50 but cutting off contact is still your best bet.
Saurabh Singh (4 months ago)
I contacted my ex after no contact of 40 days but she blocked me without saying anything.. Now what to do
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
She could've been triggered by what you've messaged her. Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication. More about that on here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UT92IB5ugs&t=300s Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1GpR5MApQk Good luck!
kaushik dutta (4 months ago)
Hey Brad If I met my ex Gf during no contact should I talk to her?
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
That would count as unavoidable contact, so follow the tips here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDZrnNh8LOg
Bella D (4 months ago)
But i miss him😋
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
It's okay if you do, you just ought to summon that self discipline not to contact him even if you do. :-)
Progrez (4 months ago)
Damn, how can I fix the issue of me saying i miss them? Because I said I miss them but I am being screwed
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Instead of letting your ex know you miss them, stop yourself and write it on a piece of note instead and burn it... or write on a piece of rock then throw it in a river to give your peace to your feelings and accept it... without actually telling your ex.
Rahul Kumar (4 months ago)
You always give best advices. Smarty Boy. You can become actor too because of your good looks nd confidence!!!
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Hey thanks! I appreciate the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it, too! :-)
aayush agarwal (4 months ago)
Brad! After 1 month we fought Again And this time it was far more worse Can you please help me?
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
Only if you help yourself. :-) It's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in the relationship. Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship,as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral.
Briget Kuk (4 months ago)
Hi, I have a question, my bf and I are kinda in a break because he’s not sure wether he really wants to break up or not, he’s not a 100% sure and when I ask him if he still has feelings for me he says he loves me less than before.. and he’s telling me that he cannot do it anymore, so he’s leaning towards the negative part of our relationship, he doesn’t think it can work anymore and he’s giving up, my problem is we still have 1 month of school and then 2 months of holidays and I’m afraid that during this period of time we won’t be able to see each other because I’m away these 2 months and I’m afraid he’s gonna have something with someone else because he did have the love at first sight with me.. (We’ve Been together for 7months only) thank you for tour response
Brad Browning (3 months ago)
The minute someone feels unsure about your relationship is the minute you ought to be giving each other space....and prepare yourself mentally for a breakup. Give it enough time. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RN6ndJZ0J-w&t=116s This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kJ1ybuFIHE
Esther Kibui (4 months ago)
What's about if xs will tex you 4 NC period you can tex them back?and after if they NC finished and they don't tex you you can text them?
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
This really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? If not, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgOG9s1fac8 and yes, you can initiate texting them (look into my other videos as to how to do this) AFTER you've done the "no contact" rule.
ANUJ SINGH (4 months ago)
Hey brad I had no contact with my ex over 2 month. So what u think no contact will be work or not? We live in a same society. She just left me and giving me a reason a familly issue. But she is quite happy in her life. What can I do? After an breakup I just doing bagging her to save this relationship Atleast 20 days to much texting and miss u & luv u all. I was a good 3 year 2 month relationship. What can I do
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Your best bet is to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. Your ex would likely come back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were begging/pleading. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1U_IOm8ofFo&t=1s
Ashleigh John Hermosada (5 months ago)
You Brad, how sure are you that Ex gets to miss me soon?
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
It's the natural course of things. People want something they can't have... and as long as you had a good solid time with him, he will miss you. He's only human after all. An exception is if and I think I've mentioned this in one of my videos before, is if your ex is a sociopath. :-)
Nina Joe (5 months ago)
You are amazing help
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Glad to be able to help. You never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
Esheka Methilda (5 months ago)
I have finished the no contact period and he's still not contacting me. He's coming online daily but not contacting me. I'm feeling ignored 😟😟😟
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_XAgHjaFM This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI Good luck!
Antoine Mclean (5 months ago)
Brad, I initiated the no contact rule. She did call me 3 days afterwards. It's been 13 days so far. But i contacted her mother yesterday for mother's day and told her happy mother's day. I didn't ask about her daughter and kept it short and just wished her haooy mother's day. Is that considered breaking the no contact rule????
Antoine Mclean (4 months ago)
Brad Browning thanks bro
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Not really, man, because it was for a purpose... as long as it was quick and you avoid doing any of the stuff mentioned in the vid.
Debashis Basu (5 months ago)
Hello sir... I'm Taniya from India...I'm using my father's YouTube account...Here my problem is My boyfriend told that he has no interest for me for nowadays...So he want a gap...And he has already recently attached with an another girl also...I'm already starting the no contact period but the main problem is we are classmate,our tuition coaching is same...So for that reason we have to meet there twice a week...And he also calls me for study,notes etc,and I have to ans him for education...So what should I do????? Please kindly help
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
I get this question a lot! In this type of situation, try to limit your contact with your ex. And by that I mean only interact with him "only" when absolutely necessary. Watch one of the latest videos I've posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDZrnNh8LOg Your case is actually one of the few cases where the “no contact” rule is an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKhNHhEmYMg
sanchi ohri (5 months ago)
Hey. .i had a contct wid my ex boyfrnd aftr two mnths n it turns out dat he n i wants d same thing dat is to be wid each othr to get married..but our families dnt jell up wid each othr n thy dnt wnt this thng to happen...now he talks to me wen he want but wen i text him he dnt evn reply...i dnt knw wht to do....he says he loves me he wnt to be wid me but he cnt wait fr me he said he has to think abt his family too...so he will get married to somone else in this way...wht should i do to make him realiz dat he is wrng...i want him back...he wants d same but he just u knw nt dat kind to wait fr his love till lyf tym...he told me abt the stuff like his family made him to meet up wid new grls but he keep rejectng thm...how can we solve all this...i m totlly messed up here...plz help me
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Sorry to hear that. Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Jables Bee (5 months ago)
This is so weird.. I've been seeing sycronicity everywhere latley. Our anniversary. Number 26. Triple numbers everywhere and sharks which are her favorite animal. She has me blocked on everything because I wanted her back but she didn't but still contacted me consistently but I started putting effort and she backed off hardcore. The thing is she still has my family on her social media.. also this video happened to be posted on her birthday this is too real...
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Give it time. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RN6ndJZ0J-w&t=116s This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kJ1ybuFIHE
Michael Pongracz (5 months ago)
Me and my ex only dated for 3 months but we had a really good/special connection. Everything was going good. We would only fight when we went to parties and were drunk. I’m was a senior in college and she was a freshman. She’s kinda immature. Me and my ex took a 2 week break. She told me that i had to control my drinking and that she needs to focus. I haven’t drank in 3 weeks but she has almost drank everyday since this break. In this 2 week break we talked everyday and saw her two times. Everything was like normal for them 2 days we hungout. One of her friends was trying to get in the way with our relationship and telling her false stuff about me. She breakup with me like a week ago when i got surgery on my shoulder and the start of summer. The first 2 days i was begging to give me another chance and that I’ve changed. I decided to watch a few of your videos. I was trying to do the Noncontact method and three days into it she snapchats me while being very intoxicated with her friends. I know she’s talking to bunch of guys right now. I guess I’m back at square one with the noncontact method. One of her good friends told me that she will talk to her for me. Is that a mistake? Do you think she’s playing games with me? Or I’m a backup plan? Do you have any advice?
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
DON'T use your friend to relay messages to your ex because that is breaking the "no contact" rule and you're yet again back to square one. It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Aditya Singh (5 months ago)
Hi brad ! I'm in the no contact phase rn . We live at a distance and have vacations currently so there is no way we can meet by chance . So once the period gets over should i ask her to just meet up or to go with me at a place we both like ... am confused how to break the no contact ???
Aditya Singh (4 months ago)
thanks alot for link and replying . <3
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Not too soon. Watch this first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jzb18j7ZMPE
Ilove Blogs (5 months ago)
My friend is gonna invite her to his bday and i am also going to be there... what should i do? Its been 3 days that i have no contact to her... and my friends bday is on friday and today is monday what do i do?
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
This: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDZrnNh8LOg
AshukGrg YT (5 months ago)
BRAD... Me and my ex breakup like 1 and half month ago even we broke up we meet like 3 times and that time i begged to get back together but she said NO.. And we talks like 2 3 days gap sometimes we talk on text but after 1 months of breakup she is saying she is dating another boy Am i too late to Use 30 days NCS..plzz help me or just she is Saying that To keep me away i dont knw help me ???
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Your best bet is to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. Your ex would likely come back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were begging/pleading. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1U_IOm8ofFo&t=1s
calvin brooks (5 months ago)
what if she ignores you even after the no contact period? I mean she just got raged after I told her she dosent deserve anything and then she broke up and not even a single text from her for 6 months that was maybe just an execuse right for a break up and just one month after our break up I heard she's dating another guy. I don't want to get back please just help me to get over this
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
These should help you out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CakOOSwIiY&lc=Ugyc4Hvk39copi8hO-d4AaABAg AND https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=01wvLSaS9_I&t=56s
PotatoSauce (5 months ago)
I still have class with my ex and we have a group chat so should i ignore her completely or act nice and say hi sometimes?
PotatoSauce (4 months ago)
Brad Browning oh man. I have been ignoring her but i will stop and give a hi once a while. I got into no contact after finding out she started dating. Should i talk to her after a month or should i keep ignoring her? Since shes in a relationship i feel weird talking to her and i dont know if she still want to be friends
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Don't purposefully ignore her since that would only create an awkward atmosphere to you and those around you. Don't ignore your ex but DON'T randomly chat with him either. I suggest not to get on that group chat unless you really have to, though.
Yash Balodhi (5 months ago)
What to do if my ex brings up talks about relationship?
Brad Browning (4 months ago)
Divert it or casually talk about it before moving on to another subject.
Dave Lewis (5 months ago)
Hey Brad, so I took your quiz two different times and never got an email back..
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Please try again using another browser this time: http://www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Mitali Goswami (5 months ago)
My ex contacts me after the intervals of 20 or 21 days he talks to me for some time like 10-12 days and then again he stops talking.What should i do i dont think he loves me now bcoz in between he was having another gf too.when he did not talk to me .what should i do
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Try to go a full month without contact. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RN6ndJZ0J-w&t=116s This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kJ1ybuFIHE
Olga Ten (5 months ago)
What if I have jumped into actively texting him after the no contact? I felt like I didn’t leave any work for him to ask questions and get to know the new me.. It went well at first, I was holding myself back and gradually letting him into my life, but then I just wanted to share every positive moment I had in my life, just cause I thought he might also be happy for me and become come interested in talking to me more.. Then I felt like his responses weren’t encouraging further conversations.. Intuitively, I feel like I have to wait a week or two before I try to contact him again (and attempt not to fall into this trap again). Please tell me if this is a good idea! Thank you!!
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time. A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Jules Brian (5 months ago)
Hi Brad, I made the mistake to beg and plead her during the first 2 months after the breakup, then I engaged no contact for a month and after no contact I sent a clean slate text and she said she's happy to hear that I'm recovering. What should I do now? Engage another no contact phase and then start rekindling/reattraction phase or begin to text her back without a second no contact?
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
When you're ready, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_XAgHjaFM This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI Good luck!
Everything Amateur (5 months ago)
What should I do if I'm doing the no contact period but I see him everyday at school
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
I get this question a lot! In this type of situation, try to limit your contact with your ex. And by that I mean only interact with him "only" when absolutely necessary. Watch one of the latest videos I've posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDZrnNh8LOg Your case is actually one of the few cases where the “no contact” rule is an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKhNHhEmYMg
Mr Brandy (5 months ago)
Hlo sir...i hV a prblm
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at http://www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Bella (5 months ago)
Just so you know I called my ex after our break up just into 3 days and he was relieved by that call. He was so happy he just didn't have the nerve to call me and he was the one who started the 'no contact'. Been together ever since.
Bella (5 months ago)
Mistake?? who breaks up 'by mistake?' Ever think the guy truly loves someone but is afraid to call? Perhaps you need do a video on that.
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Good on you. In this case, he must've broken up with you by mistake since he's way too open to getting back together too soon.
Storm Grant (5 months ago)
Hey Brad.. what happens if you have to see your ex, like at work or social event, in the no contact phase ? Storm
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
This video is for you, man: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDZrnNh8LOg
Ryan Daniel (5 months ago)
We broke up, she said she wanted to work things out so we carried on talking. Months later she blocks me after an argument. I’m thinking about sending her a message saying sorry and asking if we can be friends again.
Ryan Daniel (5 months ago)
Brad Browning yeah it was, we lived a 3-4 hour drive away but used to take turns coming to see each other. I'll check the videos out, thank you Brad!
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Is this a long distance relationship? Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQY4N04uvtA&t=4s and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5nfWRJRrnAs&t=10s
Principessa Sul Pisello (5 months ago)
How to be in a situation when I broke up with a guy after exclusivity talk when I said that I want to have serious relationships but he said that he cannot give it to me at the moment. I then said that I cannot continue this "relationships" where its not clear who we are to each other (there was sex and walks and talks, restaurants and time together, for around 2 months but it was not developing into exclusivity even looked like that). So I broke up with him and said that do not want to continue communication (I deleted him from my messenger either). After 5 weeks of complete no-contact he sent me email with a picture and text that he is thinking of me. I did not reply. Why? Because after our exclusivity talk, I still do not see it possible to continue our not xlear communication but his email does not show me that he wants to get serious. So I consider it is like a move to get things the same as they were before. Than is why I think in my case I should not reply him unless I get clear message that he wants something serious or at least he wants to have a convo. What do you think, guys?
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
You could be barking at the wrong tree if you want commitment and he's simply not ready to give it to you. Move on to someone who'll willingly and naturally want that with you. That guy is not it. Take care!
Salma Pavel (5 months ago)
We broke up 1y and half ago and he has a new gf. We haven't spoke for 6 mths and now he s texting me 3tms/week starting 2mths ago. He is still together with her, we met accidentally in a restaurant. But he was flirting with me in front of her, and after that he texted me. He told me yesterday if a want to hang out. I told him no, But I'm sure he will ask again. What should I do?
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Don't you recognize an opportunity when you see it? 😃 Your ex is opening the lines of communication which is a perfect opportunity for you to transition into phase two. Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_XAgHjaFM This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. However, tread carefully because you know in the first place that he has a girlfriend. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI Good luck!
mermaid1O1 (6 months ago)
This may sound like a dumb question, but my ex and I agreed to keep up our snapchat streak during our month on not talking (we agreed to do a no contact period). Should I kill the streak? We exchange the word “streaks” once a day, and that’s all.
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
No contact means absolutely zero contact between you and your ex in any way, shape or form. It's based on this principle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obBIttQSak4
El hijo de la tetona (6 months ago)
mermaid1O1 that’s still contact
Treshawn Crane (6 months ago)
Brad my ex blocked me on everything but I made another Instagram account and I can text her but idk if that would be creepy to text her right after she blocked me should I text ?
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
Always wait AT LEAST 30 days or even wait two more weeks to see if anything changes. Otherwise yes, it could come across as creepy. When you do reach out, make sure it's not about a bunch of random messages because that is a turn off in and of itself. The texting tips here will be a good starter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_XAgHjaFM This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeGNPBdpnsI Good luck!
Dipanshu Chatterjee (6 months ago)
Hey brad I tried the no contact period as u suggested and it even worked , she was all excited again like earlier in our relationship it was n we did hangout together for a movie n stuff , she kissed me ,held my hand n all but as soon as I attempted to talk to her abt getting back in relation in that moment she refused to have feelings for me n ended up saying no and said she only cared for me a lot what should I do now plz suggest me something.
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
That's because you should never ask her. It never works that way. Watch this, first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DOczPmyHUmY&t=1s
Syed Hassan Razi (6 months ago)
I had a talk with my ex 4 days ago after 3 months of breakup.... We study in the same college... She was talking shit about me .... So I just asked why u r doing this ?? I told her dat I don't talk shit about you ..... She was clearing herself by saying dat she didn't said anything about me .... And then I said dat I pray for you to be happy , and she also said I also pray for you dat you remain happy always .... And she also said dat I m happy dat u r participating in extra curricular activities in college .....and conversation ended..... Now what to do next????
Brad Browning (5 months ago)
How long has it been since the breakup and what steps have you taken to get your ex back? Begging and pleading will no doubt only lead to failure and it's a big no-no in my book. If you’re past the first phase of “no contact”, then have you tried the text messaging tips mentioned in my other videos? Sometimes, people grow into two different people over time, but often times, you may not just have been pulling all the right moves…You should be able to find lots of information on how to get your ex back by doing all the right steps on my channel here, so check out my other videos, too.
webeesolution (6 months ago)
After 4 month my ex came back but I did the mistake beg and sad behavior share feeling she again ignore me and talking to other guy. so what do I do now ??
webeesolution (6 months ago)
After 4 month my ex came back but i did the mistake of beg and sad behavior share feelings I forced her to meet she do that and meet me after that she again ignore me and said that bye don't msg me and talking to other guy after I don't msg her till now I ignore her and do my best .so is their any solution ??
MG W (6 months ago)
Ive used this and she contacts me everyday. I use as little communication as possible. This last time she asked me if im ok. I said im fantastic! But it would be even better if you came over and gave me a kiss!
Pen Pineapple Apple Pen (6 months ago)
Hi Brad. Me and my ex are in the same class on the same boarding school, meaning we physically see each other a lot and hear each other's voices, etc. Will no contact still work? Or should I wait until our holiday to consider it "no contact"?
sam mccarthy (6 months ago)
My ex said that he wants to be friends with me; because he's scared about how we function as a couple at the moment and we both have things that we need to work on; in order to not be a codependent relationship. I pushed him into getting his stuff back in a frantic and sad mood, although it wasnt on his mind to get his stuff. I begged him after he broke up with me; which was at the time a very casual separation, I told him that I didn't know who i was without him; he told me that now he wants to be friends, I told him that I don't know what the future holds but heres to a future friendship. He's now contacting me and reminiscing about the happy times in our relationship; and told me that he wanted to see me yesterday when he was dropping my stuff off, I said that I'm busy at the moment but maybe we can get coffee next week if I'm not too busy. I ask him questions and he gives long-winded responses and informs me about the important things in his life. I tried no contact and had about five days of no-contact shall i start no-contact again? He said that he doesn't know if he loves me; but cares about me deeply and can see all the good in me and that he has an psyhical attraction towards me. Im worried that I've mucked up with him forever, but i feel like he is the love of my life and i have never really felt this way about anybody before. Our friends tell me that they've never seen him like this (as he is obviously grieving), but he had extreme doubts that he didn't know what to do with. How do i make him see me as someone he can date again?
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
One way not to have a codependent relationship, is to give each other space and stand on your own. It's a terrible idea to be friends with him. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yd6pvNVeHjI but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Andy Steeve (6 months ago)
hey Brad soo..i started doing this no contact thing after me and my ex broke up it's starting to work, but I think she's been cheating on me, so the question is would it be a good idea that after we met to bring up the subject so that I know that she deserves a second chance? if not, what should I do?
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
Unless you have some solid proof she's cheating, I don't suggest you bring it up. If she's dating someone else after the breakup, also DO NOT bring that up because you're both single now and free to date anyone you choose. Employ the tips here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUBNd6pDINM
Jose Rodriguez (6 months ago)
Brad, i need your help. Your videos are great. But my situation is very unique. I've been trying to get my ex back for about 6 months. Throughout this time I've stoped talking to her several times and each time she draws me back in. Recently I did the no contact for about 3 and a half weeks then she asked if I was done ignoring her. I saw her because I went to see her niece and we began talking again. She claims she has feelings, still loves me and wants me around. But I know she is also talking to another guy she works with. I asked her several times to let him go if she wants me around. She keeps telling me it's not about him. Her schedule is very hectic right now and she's under a lot of stress so she says she has no time to comit to our relationship. We kiss and hold hands when I see her but she seems still resistant a little. I've talked to her about starting fresh and having a brand new relationship but she still thinks about our arguementive past. I have cheated on her before and she took me back. Honestly I don't know what to do brad. I want to stick around so she can see that I've changed but I can't stop thinking about the other guy. She will not talk about him but he is not her boyfriend and keeps telling me she doesnt know whether she has feelings for him. It makes me mad and i dont know how to go about this. What should I do please help man. I feel as if I'm trapped.
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
You're being needy if you ask her to let him go, man. Remember the first part where you essentially accept that you've broken up? You're doing the exact opposite if you continue to do that. Show her you're cool with it instead. Why? Because you're broken up and you're both single and can date anyone you like at this point. Also watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUBNd6pDINM
Sarah Keinicke (6 months ago)
what if he texts me about things that I forgot at his place? do I wait to pick them up till the no concact period have passed? :)
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
If you can hold off before getting your things back from him, I would suggest you do so. The only exception is if you absolutely need those stuff back right away.
world traveller (6 months ago)
is it ok if i maintain my facebook updates but not speaking to him? but waht i want to do is avoid social media too for now, but then he will see me Im just around, i wanted him to not hear or see anything about me for now.
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
Yes, of course. Watch this to help guide you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1GpR5MApQk
Prantik Mukherjee (6 months ago)
will my ex miss me if she has a boyfriend during my no contact period?
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
Well, keep in mind that the new guy isn’t you and if your relationship had been particularly good for the most part, then you can use that knowledge to your advantage. Your ex is likely rebounding, especially if yours had been a long-term or serious relationship. Watch these first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBtb34gy6zw and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lG2shYI1h9k But don’t rely on that fact alone. Learn to play your cards right as well and go by these principles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kJ1ybuFIHE Good luck!
Zara Church (6 months ago)
Hi Brad!,I never met this man but I fell really really in love with him on line!...we just played a game together and chatted!..I feel that once he realised how I felt he blew himself out!...and absolutely broke my heart like never before!..he never plays the game now nor answers my emails!I am doing the no contact bit and it is ten days now!...I really need him to come back and stop ignoring me!..what are my chances?!..thank you Brad!..Zara.x
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
Sorry to hear that. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is really often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQY4N04uvtA&t=4s and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5nfWRJRrnAs&t=10s
Michael Phipps (6 months ago)
You said that you should not say “I love you” after the no contact period is over. What should you do if they say it first?
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
You can smile or say thanks or completely diver the subject.
Jose Lafalaise (6 months ago)
What if I work at the same place with my ex?
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
I get this question a lot! In this type of situation, try to limit your contact with your ex. And by that I mean only interact with her "only" when absolutely necessary. Your case is actually one of the few cases where the “no contact” rule is an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKhNHhEmYMg and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydeES3WU1Uc but read my Ex Factor Guide because you still ought to gothrough the basics as well. I've posted an overview on how to get your ex back on an earlier vid,check it  out as it's  all there, but with the guide,  you'll have an in-depth view on how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential at www.breakupbrad.com Okay? Take care!
Carolina B (6 months ago)
should i wait more than 30 days if i begged and pleaded (only the day of the breakup and the day after) ? im almost done with the 30 days, but i read on your website lovelearings that i should wait at least 60 days if i begged or pleaded, i think its a lot of time because he is rebounding and im afraid he forgets about me (he sees her everyday because of school) thanks!
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
The most important thing to keep in mind is be 100% ready when you reach out to your ex. The "no contact" rule can be extended for as long as 60 days as long as you're ready for that interaction. Usually it's within the 4-6 week period though when you do the steps right and set the stage for the second phase. Good luck!
haven ortega (6 months ago)
Hey Brad I have a very different case.. My girlfriend and I have been together for more than 3yrs.. But she's married. She has two kids which I love dearly like my own. Her husband is working overseas and yes I know it sounds auwful that I'm a third party. But I really love my girlfriend and she said she would tell her husband about our relationship as she loves me more than him. She's the only girl I love so much and would do anything to be with her. She's my source of life as well as her kids. Then her husband found out after a long time but she denied it as she was threatened he would take her kids away. My girls friends father also intervenes and beaten her when he was told she was still seeing me. I wanted to take her away..but her message to me was that we need to think of the children for now..she's gone..she never come to see me anymore nor message or call me and its been like hell for me. Its been 3weeks now since her last message. I wanted to kill myself because of the pain of not being with her anymore. I quited my job as I can't focus and can't stop thinking of her... I lock myself most of the time in my apartment and keeps on waiting for her..she's the only girl I wanted so much. I wanna grow old with her take care of her and her kids..always be there for her. I don't know what to do anymore...every day I feel like dying and wanting to die. Please help me brad I need her.
haven ortega (6 months ago)
She told me that marrying her husband was not really her intention at the first place it just so happened that she got pregnant and her husband talked to her father to talk her into marriage for the sake of the child. At times I wanted to kill myself because of her leaving. I know she loved me because we've been through a lot. We broke up before but it only lasted for a few days and she always comes back. But this time its been a month of no contact both on our sides. My heart always longs to see her and the kids that I also miss so much ... They made me feel complete and for that more than 3yrs I felt I had a family. But now its gone. She was my best food trip and travel buddy aside from being my lover. She was my inspiration of getting up everyday to work. Now I lost my job..as I lost myself. I lost my will to do anything but just very each night. I felt like my heart wanted to explode and my soul has been taken out of my body. My mind gives me evil.thoughts already and wanting to do bad things. I really want her back. I need her back.
haven ortega (6 months ago)
Our love just so happened to grew from friends and being lovers. I was always there for her during her tough times and always supported her in anyway and she told me I was the one she love and if she only met me during the time she was single it would have been easier. She also said that I'm the only person who loved her so much the way I did and she was grateful for that. She left me because of her kids and because her father might do something to me if he ever finds out were still seeing each other. I drives me crazy Brad. I really want her to come back.
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
An affair with a married woman is very complicated, man. There's also lots of factors to consider before you can form a true connection with her and the biggest obstacles are her husband and their marriage. Consider moving on from this. If she can do this to her husband... what makes you think she can't do it to you, if she finds someone she "loves" more despite already being married?
Jauhe Vance (6 months ago)
brad can you please give me a way to contact u personally. email or anything I need advice
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
Aside from contacting me on here? You can also reach me via the contact info on my website at www.breakupbrad.com or send me a message via my Facebook fan page: https://www.facebook.com/bbrowning/ Please do understand though, that I go by in the order that I receive these (just like here on Youtube) and that coaching clients take first priority. Sign up for my email coaching program instead if you think your situation is urgent so I can address it as soon as possible, all right? Take care!
Xuman Subu (6 months ago)
Hey!!! Brad help me!!!! I did 30 days no contact after begging and pleading for about 8 days and after using clean slate. I did 30 days NC and started texting my ex as u said like good remainder text and question text and smile text. Though she used to reply within minutes positively annd happily I used to reply after a hours or two. But now she don't reply me even when I am sending her the funny videos or memes text even though she is online she don't even opens is she also using NC or what . What should I do now I am helpless try to help me out here only oakyy I am not able to afford you from my country
Brad Browning (6 months ago)
Something tells me you've ovedone it, man. How many memes have you sent her? If you've sent too many, that just stops being funny, so focus on real communication instead. Employ the tips here and I've also posted a lot of "what to text your ex" videos so check those out too. This is just one of the many (which is a better alternative to memes/videos) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVbOz3shHok&t=2s

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