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Wedding Guest Etiquette - DO's & DON'Ts of Behavior & Manners at Weddings

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Check out our written Wedding Etiquette DO's & DON'Ts guide, here: https://gentl.mn/wedding-guest-etiquette SHOP THE VIDEO: Dark Bronze Madder Silk Pocket Square with Diamond Motif and Paisley - https://gentl.mn/2sNPUZp 00:52 Do RSVP in a timely manner. The wedding couple and the entire team has spent a lot of time, money, and effort to plan this whole event and they want to know as soon as possible who they can expect at their event. 01:28 Don't ask to add guests to an invitation. If the invitation says plus one, you can bring another person, not three others. If it says plus family, it means you can bring your family. 02:10 Do respect the dress code. If the invitation has a dress code, follow it. Popular dress codes for weddings include cocktail attire, black tie or black tie optional. If the invitation does not state a dress code, you should definitely ask the wedding couple. 02:46 Do buy a gift from the registry or give them cash. Nobody's interested in your self-knitted blankets, your old vases, or your hand me down glasses. 04:18 Do go with the flow. Chances are the bride and groom made lots of plans and this is the time for you to relax, just sit back, enjoy and go with the flow. 04:34 Don't be greedy at an open bar. In most cultures, if you're invited to a wedding, that means you're not expected to pay for anything and everything is included. In the US, however, it's not uncommon to have a cash bar where guests are expected to pay for alcoholic beverages. 05:09 Do drink in moderation. It's great to have a drink and relax and be jolly but it's not okay to have eight drinks and be totally drunk and pass out and maybe puke into the corner. 05:38 Don't encourage over consumption of others. That means, don't buy shots, not for the groom, or anybody else, and this is not a frat party, this is a wedding. 05:52 Do leave the drama at home. This is not the time to rehash old stories or disputes. 06:04 Don't embarrass the wedding couple by trying to be the center of attention. That means as a woman, do not wear a white dress, that's reserved for the bride. Same as the men, don't wear shiny dinner jackets, or big boutonnieres, or top hats as the guest because that's not about you, it's about them. 06:24 Don't arrive late or leave the event early. If you have major other conflicts with your schedule and you can't make it work, simply don't attend. 06:44 Do say goodbye to the bride and groom in person. It is their day and yes, they don't have time to spend an hour and talking to all their guests. 07:22 Do plan a safe ride home if you had a few drinks. Do not drive yourself. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Most Popular videos: How to accept a compliment - https://youtu.be/_EKXNmM1PUo 101 things that change when you dress up - https://youtu.be/JyGDd_iYaCI How to tie a Bow Tie - https://youtu.be/2I3cfa0BOOc --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Want to stay updated? Sign up here for free: https://gentl.mn/2rGsEgs Want to see more videos? Subscribe to our channel! https://www.youtube.com/user/thegentlemansgazette --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Gentleman's Gazette https://gentl.mn/2sgWUwW Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gentlemansgazette FREE EBOOK: https://gentl.mn/2rGsEgs
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DemitriVladMaximov (12 days ago)
I have a question, but not sure where to ask it . My sister is getting married at the end of the month and I am one of the groomsman. I have never met the groom or his family as I live in Montana and she is in Alabama and I don't want to offend anyone. Now my question is can I refuse to participate in the garter toss? I am not only single, but the kind of single that has quit on relationships of the romantic kind entirely and resents weddings and many wedding traditions. I don't dance, go out, and don't want to ruin the wedding bring the mood to a halt because they will tell I would rather not even be there to begin with. So would it be wrong for the sake of everyone's happiness just avoid the situation by polietly declining to get involved?
N. M. (10 days ago)
Dear Demetri, I would strongly suggest that you send this message to Raphael per E-Mail. It‘s on the Gentleman‘s Gazette Website. I am sure he will answer and provide helpful information.
Tom Silverheart (1 month ago)
A cash bar. This is so lame.
Karen K (1 month ago)
Mostly great suggestions, but the only one I sort of went "WTF?" on was the one about gifts. Gifts, by definition, are never owed, and in the same vein, they are not supposed to be "payment" for their invitation/reception dinner, and that mentality (common, sadly) is tacky. You give what you can and what you like... and a *tasteful, thoughtful* inexpensive gift is never an "insult." A lovely framed photo of the couple would be something special, and costs very little.
xJulia Luminax (2 months ago)
Great video!!
No name ok (2 months ago)
The last wedding I attended both bride and groom got wasted and passed out, then left without saying goodbye, lol
SteamPunk (1 month ago)
I agree the problem is often with the hosts. Showing up properly means very little if the people inviting you have no clue. Often, you are obligated to go.
Nikos Karalis (4 months ago)
In Greece, where I live, weddings are wayyy more relaxed than ones in America or the rest of Europe. We never have a dress code (most people wear just jeans and a dress shirt), there is no chance that children are not welcome (in fact everyone tends to have a lot of fun with them), there is no bar or open bar, and it is much more disrespectful not to attend a wedding than to leave early. And there is no rsvp either. You just contact the host but only if you will not be able to attend. That's not hating in any way, I'm just highlighting some cultural differences! I love this series!
Just Marry! (4 months ago)
This is a great video. You touched on many things that we see wedding guests take for granted. I especially love your RSVP comments and your “leave the drama at home” statement.
Juan Garcia (4 months ago)
Give what you can
Korya Iine (5 months ago)
How should one present money as gifts? Regular envelope? Fancy? Only one? Or: Envelope inside another envelope? Thanks><
Just Marry! (4 months ago)
Korya Iine we typically see guests give money to the couple in a nice greeting card.
Royal Carleton (5 months ago)
As an officiant who has officiated over 1,000 ceremonies, I can share that Raphael's words are spot on! I want to loose my mind when guests arrive 5-10-15 minutes late for a wedding, when they won't stop taking photos with their cell phones, or when they forget that they were invited to be guests, not to critique, or be a planner. It is about having some decorum. Well said!
60Macushla (7 months ago)
This guy is on point!! 👍 Listen up men!!
Danny G (8 months ago)
Never been to an Irish wedding then?
Rachel Stephanie (11 months ago)
I live in the US and we don’t give $20 a person for a wedding. It is very rare that that happens and if it does it is very rude. I always give at least $100-$150 per person. So when my boyfriend and I go to weddings we give $300 together.
Karen K (1 month ago)
It's unusual for anyone but family to give cash, at least in my experience. No one with an class should be "insulted" by ANY sincere and kind gift.
Kitty Chan (1 year ago)
About the gifts... My cousin and her fiance asked for lottery coupons instead of flowers. I think it's a smart idea because imagine getting over 100 flower bouquets at your wedding...
rab shyne (1 year ago)
The people hating on series dont understand that Gentlemen chooses to be well rounded in all all situations. A little etiquette goes a long way.
Awesome Adrienna (1 year ago)
Thanks I needed this info for tomorrow!?! I'm nervous?!?
INDIARTIC TV (1 year ago)
Sehr gutes Video, wie eigentlich alle! Vielen Dank dafür!
Jeff Ho (1 year ago)
Where can I find the tie you are wearing in this video? It is beautiful but I can't find it in your shop.
L. Blacklock (1 year ago)
Have you done a video dealing with the etiquette FOR the newly married couple rather than the guests? Believe me, these days I encounter far more ridiculous behaviour from the bride and groom than I do from the guests. Yes, it may be THEIR wedding, but it is not an excuse to act boorish and foolish. Of the points you raised, I must strongly disagree with the one regarding RSVP. The happy couple really do not care whether you attend or not. What they DO care about is that you provide a gift of substantial value. Once you satisfy their sense of greed and entitlement, the couple does not care if they ever see you again. Welcome to 2017 where even the most refined make a conscious effort to be trashy.
Michael Suppa (1 year ago)
This is a fantastic video. So practical and doesn't cost anything to know these simple rules. I'm certain you've made an impact with this video by saving a couple or two the headaches arising with these "don'ts".
MRZsiir (1 year ago)
I went to a wedding 3 weeks ago. My job requires to dress sharp which means I have tailored clothes. So I went to that wedding and many of the guests looked sloppy, and terribly dressed. I saw adult person wearing a dirty pre tied tie... Most of the guys dont even have pocket square and I felt uncomfortable because I was way better dressed than the guests. I paid attention to not to overdress the groom and I did not.
Zoltán Antal (1 year ago)
I've just been invited to a wedding, this series couldn't have come at a better time!
Astal Lopes (1 year ago)
Sir i although dont find your voice and face attractive.... But you have a strong and superior knowledge about styling.... I appreciate it😊😊😊
El Chupacabra (4 months ago)
hahahaha that backhanded compliment
Lasse Hansen (1 year ago)
Great video Rapheal! 👏 can totally relate, we had guest asking to if they could bring x,y,z with them to the party. Not really something we considered polite. 😉
Isaak Rozenkranz (1 year ago)
Ladies and gentlemen, Sven Raphael Schneider advising people not to puke at a wedding :D
Philip Meisterl (1 year ago)
Finde die videos cool aber finde nicht dass man nicht kommen soll sondern sagen dass man zu spät kommt zum beispiel zum essen nach der kirche...
Sven Svensson (1 year ago)
Video should be called "A video about common sense"
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
Lol, I wish that could have been the title but in my experience that is absolutely not the case.
Dániel Hajzer (1 year ago)
I don't really get the hate for this series. I think it provides a lot of useful information for everyone and I mean a bit of manners never hurt anyone. I think Raphael did a great job as always.
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
Thanks for your support
I love this series, keep the videos comming. It would be fun if you Raphael just stuck out a wedding afterparty video as a last video just to spite the haters.
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
Merci! We don't want to antagonize people and it is ok to disagree but the tone makes the music as we say in German.
Ordinarily Dapper (1 year ago)
Hey Sven, I have been enjoying your channel and videos for over a year now and think you have some of the best knowledge and details of all the big style channels! keep up the amazing work sir and if you have the time to look at my new channel, please do! I am ordering several things like lighting, backgrounds, and better mic for camera to make much more professional! I simply needed to start and do something now and get content out lol. Please excuse the amateur nature as I'm learning as I go!
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
Good luck with the video production!
Elmasai Seasoma (1 year ago)
I'm from Spain and you should pay what the couple spend on your plate.
Sony Francois (1 year ago)
Great video, great info. Thx
Frankie Whittom (1 year ago)
are there colors for "second" marrege?
N. M. (10 days ago)
No. There are not.
truthseekerUK (1 year ago)
I am the drunken guest that ruins the wedding😂
Mike Wappler (1 year ago)
Hi Raphael, I like your channel a lot but I cannot wait for this wedding series to be over..
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
You won't have to wait for long anymore then.
Mandeep Baweja (1 year ago)
Here in India none of these rules matters ;) bcoz its like disrespect to guests and they might feel bad for something written like no family or no children pls!
zzz43452 (6 months ago)
No pet elephants.
Isuru Nanayakkara (1 year ago)
Why so much hate for this series? It's good information. In your life, you attend so many weddings and even get married at some point. People complaining about a few videos on that? And as if they're paying for it?! Pathetic. You do you, Raphael!
Ecthelion (5 months ago)
I don't think there's an unusual like to dislike ratio. Maybe there was with early respondents.
Lexi Stands (1 year ago)
Haha...I think the people who disliked this video are the ones who broke the rules. haaa.
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
Thanks for the support, you make good points. I think most people like instant gratification although successful people are usually the ones who plan ahead...
The Shadow (1 year ago)
Moar about 4
MisterBassBoost (1 year ago)
Fantastic video! Keep it up!
Alper Cezmi Özdemir (1 year ago)
I hope you will be done with this whole wedding guide soon. I can't say this series has been my favorite. Sorry
Tony (10 months ago)
ALPER CEZMİ ÖZDEMİR Is that because you turkroaches pawn your women like cattle? Go back to your cave in Anatolia you filthy animal.
Malaquias Alfaro (1 year ago)
Gentleman's Gazette It has been very useful to me
Avi Menchel (1 year ago)
Gentleman's Gazette I'm sure he will. at least now....
Gentleman's Gazette (1 year ago)
We will, yes and we understand that it is not to the taste of everyone but we believe everyone should know about it, and next time you attend a wedding, I hope you remember this video series ;)
OttovBismarck (1 year ago)

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