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How To Deal With Social Anxiety | 5 Tips To Overcome Anxiety

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Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com and http://www.aaronmarino.com, discusses 5 tips to overcome social anxiety. Social anxiety is something that can be beaten if you take action and control of the situation. You deserve to be happy and experience great times with good people. This video will help you deal with social anxiety and provides some helpful tips to overcome anxiety. Do you get nervous and a little self conscious when you walk into a room of people you don't know? Butterflies and anxiety are normal when getting up and giving a speech in front of people. Social anxiety is beyond that-- it's an absolute fear. It's so strong that it prevents you from going places and doing things. It's limiting happiness and the ability to socialize. Social Anxiety Triggers Aaron Marino of alpha m. says social anxiety an irrational fear of embarrassing yourself or getting intensely scrutinized. Alpha covers triggers: meeting new people, being the center of attention, making small talk, public speaking, being called out in class, eating in public, going out on a date, using a public bathroom. Do You Have Social Anxiety? Warning signs are stressing and being anxious about doing everyday things; worrying for weeks before an event; feeling that you constantly being judged or picked apart. Behavioral symptoms are deciding not to go to attend an event, bringing along a friend, standing in the background, or drinking before going to an event. If you have more fear than fun, take the steps to get your social anxiety in check. Getting Social Anxiety Under Control 1.Challenge your own negative thoughts. 2.Learn to control your breathing. 3.Face your fear. 4.Seek professional help such as a therapist. 5.Medication.
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Ayu Sarah (9 hours ago)
Im not negative thinking but me and my classmates have a chat group. I asked something without thinking any negative thought but i got no answered. Just got tease tho
iIvan ;-; (16 hours ago)
Is it just me or when i walk around people i dont know i dont walk normally and i cant control my eyes i just scratch them to make me feel better (idk it just feels weird around people looking at you) *Please Dont Tell Me Its Just Me* (ps: i wear masks everyday) Edit: One more thing, when i feel someone is staring at me,my face feels heavy (weird right😐)
Carolina Topete (1 day ago)
I'm meeting my boyfriend parents tomorrow night I'm so nervous its giving me bad anxiety lol
Ella xo (2 days ago)
I think I'm extroverted but sometimes, there's situations where I feel physically sick....like at an interview, walking into a space , asking someone who works in a store where something is , returning an item, just silly things like that, but they make my stomach hurt .
mae may (2 days ago)
i have social anxiety still stuggling to find a job.
STEFANIA (3 days ago)
Watching this before class lmao rip
Felix Johnbull (3 days ago)
Cool
SargeCP (3 days ago)
I feel like I'm an alien when I'm around anyone is that bad?
Simran Sangha (3 days ago)
Last time I had to do a project and had to talk to people, I fainted, I have to do it again soon and I’m terrified I’m gonna faint again lol
thatguy (4 days ago)
Thing is I can act cool,calm, and rational but my heart beat,red face, and sweating everything says otherwise.
Spaghetti Tosser (4 days ago)
I have very severe social anxiety and I want to get better but for some reason I’m scared to. Is that normal?
Jozmy Costa (5 days ago)
I'm trying to be more confident
Shira (6 days ago)
I hate myself and the way my brain works. Someone please end me
Jaqen H'ghar (6 days ago)
took me some time to get comfortable around my coworkers when I just started... but then theres the company party with other departments, and Im like " 3:00 "
losa sakarosa (6 days ago)
i was a person who was never socially awkward, i was so positive and didn't give a shit about what people thought of me. I then became friends with a really toxic person that changed my perspective of life and was constantly judging everything about me resulting in me to overthink every little dumb ass thing. I then started to get really self conscious about my appearance which resulted in my eating disorder, and now im just an awkward mess who overthinks shit and hates herself :)
Soni Pal (6 days ago)
No tips and tricks works. when it happens it happens.
ATS (6 days ago)
Sucks at offivr workplace
KruzeyBreeze (7 days ago)
I have a feeling of anxiety listening to everything you're saying... just thinking about what it would be like for me to talk to others
KruzeyBreeze (7 days ago)
I notice there's a dot on his left eye...nothing wrong with that but does anyone else notice? Lol but seriously though this videos good...I'm to the point where I can't even get up and ask my teacher for help...part of the reason I have pretty bad grades....I don't want people to hear me talking to the teacher apparently
Cubefarmer Hkc (8 days ago)
I didn’t know I had this disorder until I was in my mid 30s. I’m 40 now and I really just don’t like being around people at all. I have accepted it.
Mindy Michaels (8 days ago)
i want that shirt for reals thats a sweet lil design
Issac Pre-Med (9 days ago)
I was uncomfortable around everyone and was in fear of everyone even family that I was super comfortable with and it started once I got into college and started being a loner. It’s completely gone now, but those were some rough 3 yrs.
AZander06 Alt (9 days ago)
I can't run in front of any one it just fells dumb and I want to but I cant
Ÿxsisbs (10 days ago)
My social anxiety is so bad I decided to not show up to my birth
Corey Benmargi (10 days ago)
You can meat me because I stutter and it's not a good feeling I can't say anything I want to
Arturo Beltran (10 days ago)
Man, I can't even think when I got like this. It gets my frustrated and pissed off that I feel this way because I don't know what caused this to develop in my head. I have always been an introvert but had never had a problem with that until I started feeling super anxious at around age 23. There was this one time when I was still in the university and was in the office to see my financial counselor. There were two other women sitting there too, waiting. Then this one guy walks in all nervous and trying to play it off by talking so much that even the receptionist looked uncomfortable because she didn't know what to say to continue the conversation with him. Then when the receptionist told him to take a seat he came over, sat and just kept looking around and trying to make conversation. He just started talking to us 3 people sitting in the waiting area by talking loud and saying he was in a psychology class. We just sat there like "okay?" And then he says, isn't funny how we all just try to play it off like we are comfortable? He then points us out and says she (one of the girls) is on her phone, she (other girl) is reading a magazine but is shaking her leg up and down. And he (me) has his headphones on to listen to music. Ugh, that shit just gets me mad now just thinking about it. I feel that was one of the things that unlocked a part of my brain that made me be more self conscious. My point of this whole thing is. Don't freaking point things out of other people just to feel better about yourself. Now I feel like everyone is watching what I do, even my breathing. I try to relax when I am anxious but then I feel that people will see me taking deep breaths and will right away be judging.
Alex (11 days ago)
Totally me :(( Really nice video btw!
Jesus is the way (11 days ago)
Not sure why God forbid but I been feeling dizzy and anxious when in shops 🤷🏻‍♀️
Shubham Mishra (11 days ago)
?? !!!!
Caser (11 days ago)
My social anxiety is that bad I’m scared of hanging out in a group of people I know at school
Benjamin (12 days ago)
Alpha m. You are a gem
Dashrath Bhatiya (12 days ago)
So I'm not alone
Alex Csillag (13 days ago)
I wish people would invite me to places.... when they do its a blessing, but it is mostly family members not friends.
MrFredstt (14 days ago)
My lack of self confidence and social anxiety/awkwardness has actually been stopping me from getting a job and then I feel even worse because I have no money
Gabriela Serrano (15 days ago)
Am I the only person who stutters or shakes when in public/social situations?? Like I feel uncomfortable in my own skin and feel like I can't grab something without having my hands get shaky. I forget how to talk because I overthink e v e r y t h i n g. Then I get paranoid that everyone's looking at me. 😞
Gabriela Serrano (12 days ago)
+Jay Jade I can only imagine... I feel like in the end, its all about opening your perspective to a point where you can shift your focus from going through the endless negative possibilities of what a person can be thinking about you to what you can do to be confident and just have a good time :)
Jay Jade (12 days ago)
you're not alone. it's even more difficult for men.
Gabriella Hardy (15 days ago)
I absolutely love this video, thankyou so much
Shoaib Khan (12 days ago)
I also know problem of some people. In which they have written that when I talk with any girls then my eyes fall on unpleasant place or private part. Because of this’ they avoid ayes contact with every person including man and girl. I have persnol experienc that you avoid viewing porn video for a month. Then 0You can see change self. I know it’s difficult at starting. Social anaxity is kind of two; first is because of shy. Second is because of above reason. I suggest that please stop viewing porn video
babyboocici1913 (16 days ago)
I can’t even go to the store
yessenia santiago (17 days ago)
I don’t think medication is going to help with social anxiety
i Loks (18 days ago)
Grate advise
StoneBrain (19 days ago)
Dont think of what to say before hand! Not a good idea. 3:47
Thinkerbell b (20 days ago)
I have massive social anxiety, majority of the time it can just be too much stimuli i think and it overwhelms me. Not sure how to categorize that kind of anxiety. Course, is made worse when i ramble.
Jayquan Floyd (20 days ago)
I've been at that position because of a wake up call in my past. It was a big struggle of my highschool life and a little bit of my freshman year in college
Sbond icles (21 days ago)
why did i relate so hard to this
Disney Theroeum (21 days ago)
This video made me anxious
David Cipriano (21 days ago)
so this is my problem: I have never been an introvert, I have just felt a little out of place and I never made friends in high school. Going to a commuting college never improved my chances of meeting new people, until I decided to see it in myself that it is time to date and make friends because NOBODY deserves to be alone. I joined a club at school and I really liked it, but most of these members seem to have anxiety of sorts and it is kind of a turn off. Last semester I was really tired of school and was going through some anxiety and crazy thoughts (something I had never experienced but given the circumstance of a taking a really shitty class with a shitty professor, it happened). I really tried to ground myself and find myself surrounded with a couple of friends I made but I just couldn't really go out with them since they have their own life going on. I went a whole month without really going out and having fun, and I think I have developed anxiety of sorts. I begin to have negative thoughts and I just think about those people from school and how they behave in public, like if they're on edge. I really need to save myself, but idk how since people that I know don't seem to hang out even when I ask. :(
MrSilver2nd (22 days ago)
Caused by a set of self limiting beliefs... Some rational while many irrational. The amigdala kicks into high gear and the hypersensitivity takes control. Most people retreat into solitude and into their own internal world while others take and aggressive externalized approach. Personalities high in neuroticism are the biproduct. The origins of this social disorder can be both genetic and epigenetic. Such people will not fair well in relationships with other socially anxious people. What is required is the companionship of a secure and empathetic person in a relationship. Its challenging to reverse the damage caused by experience and may be impossible to completely undo it however decreasing the intensity of the experience can help in making profound improvement in the quality of life of the individual. Mentoring/coaching is very helpful. Establishing meaninful relationships and having that home base helps in subduing the sense of threat. Developing a level of indifference towards the opinion of others also helps but must be monitored as to not get out of control and create and indifference towards society and consequently a disdain for humanity. Important - a mild sense of anxiety in social settings is healthy. Also it is helpful to focus your interests on others around you and to get your focus off of yourself. Set the goal of learning about others prior to engaging in social activity and you will make improvements and possibly new friends. Godspeed
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SkyLar Savage (22 days ago)
Is this social anxiety if your scared of being embarrassed Scared to ask something hate or maybe don't want to be doing presentation But can be very social or are friends? Also I think i have no friends Think everyone hates me or think I'm weird
Poon Pounder (23 days ago)
I’m socially awkward because I can’t stop thinking of everyone staring at my buttcrack
Some are saying to ignore your thoughts and be yourself. The thing is that it’s very hard...since I suffer from it...basically your mind takes control of you...controlling it is VERY hard
michel Charbonneau (26 days ago)
I am Afraid of people...help
Arosifu (27 days ago)
Idk if this works for you guys, but it works for me, everytime you got anxious take a very deep breath as you can and hold it as long as you can, and exhale it, (sorry for my bad english) and the second thing you can do is count from 24 to 1 everytime you think about anything that make you anxious, and if you think about anything in the middle of countdown, go back to 24 again, you keep doing it until you don't think abiut anything that makes you anxious
Tito Marino (27 days ago)
I am welling up with tears. The Anxiety Aid Recording is, well, there aren't words to describe how much of a relief it is. This is better than a syringe filled with Ativan. The anxiety is gone completely from me. I am currently taking up to 2mg of Klonipin per day and have been on it for about 19 years. I still suffer even with 2 mg dose and if I took more it still wouldn't accomplish what this recording does. It took about 30 seconds for the anxiety to go away with the isochronic recording and another 30 seconds for that anxiety to be replaced by a feeling of warmth and complete relief and the chest pains disappeared. click here to download : t.co/h58vVwyLjm
veress samu (27 days ago)
Watching these kind of videos are great... If you watch it right before going somewhere, but int the middle of the night... not really, i go to sleep, and this encouraging feeling goes away.
foscor sohil (27 days ago)
I talk gibberish when I'm nervous. This cute girl was asking me questions and i was so nervous that i just blurted out nonsense sentences that even i couldn't understand... FUCK.
Theresa Joy (30 days ago)
Yeah, office called me on Monday to tell me I won employee of the month to come in on Friday so they can award me, I spent all week with anxiety, I show up, super anxiety, being center of attention while they listen to the owner congratulating me, I even said I’m just very nervous what did everyone do? They all laugh :( I didn’t even say bye now that I think about it, I just said bye in my head and left after they gave me the award oops 😬 when will this stop,I’m tired of thinking everyone I judging me, when there not ugh 😑
Yourfav_sammy (30 days ago)
I have been at my school for 6 years. This is my last year. I am silent. I try not to be but I’m just really awkward and I can’t be like everyone else. I’m really frustrated about it and social anxiety is the reason no one talks to me.
Dina Chacon (30 days ago)
I was liking everything he was saying in till he said medication smh that’s out 🚫
Luslin Roby (30 days ago)
Thanks for the video.. I have tried all 5.. Still I'm fucked up
The Trumpster (30 days ago)
I hate how I watch all these videos and I eventually never act on anything
gissneric (30 days ago)
I've thought about not wanting to be alive but at the same time afraid of dying. It's hard to seek professional help when you can't even open up to your family. I don't know if I can handle being like this in the next decade.
BroZ (1 month ago)
I've been a bit socially akward for a very long time. But no one has ever pointed that out to me. Instead of pointing it out to me and trying to help me, my friends seem to feel super bad for me, and they believe that I'm really depressed and suicidal. None of them has told me that, but I can tell.. Whenever someone says a offensive joke to me or just messes with me in a fun way, I just look down and laugh a little bit. Then the person just start feeling bad for me, and everything turns super akward. It's gotten to the point where I literally don't even wanna get out of my house anymore. I wanna stay alone at home as much as I can. It's horrifying, since I know that I'm not actually a akward person. It's just my appearance and the way I say and do things that make me look super akward, and people around me feel akward talking to me. The worst part is the "feeling bad" thing tho. I hate it whenever I actually don't take a joke serious, and my friends goes up to me with a calming voice saying "I was just joking, don't get sad" or "Did that offend you?" and such comments. Then I just akwardly and depressingly answer "No". But that just makes them feel even worse for me. They literally believe that I'm suicidal, which I'M NOT. Really messes with me mentally tho, really don't know whether I should just give up on school at this point. I literally can't even keep eyecontact anymore, because everyone seems to be staring at me all the time. And I really don't know why, which makes me even more insecure and confused about everything surrounding my life. I'm really at my lowest low now when it comes to socializing and talking to people. I'm even posting this on one of my old Youtube accounts because I'm scared that if I use my main account, some of my friends or someone I know will be able to track this comment down. Life's truly tough at times, that's for sure.
Amin Fadzli (17 days ago)
Same thought with me.
cadberry (1 month ago)
I suffer a lot from social anxiety, I’m such a loner, I quit school to go for a ged because I couldn’t take it. I do nothing all day, I can’t socialize even with my friends I always bring up some awkward shit, I can’t meet new people I don’t know what to do or say or even think, I hate being in public I can’t walk eat or do anything while being comfortable I feel like I’m going to embarrass myself all the time I feel like such a failure and I don’t know what to do , I need help.
BroZ (1 month ago)
Yeah I'm with you on that one. I feel akward af whenever I just simply walk around in school. It feels like everyone looks at me and feels bad for me for some reason. Which makes me insecure. I've spent alot of time just looking at myself in the mirror, just to try and figure out what's so specific about me, and what makes peoples attention grab onto me. It's truly a mystery why these things happen. And it can really screw up with you mentally at times. I'm currently 15 and I've never felt this insecure and akward about myself ever. For example, I was very fat about 6 months ago, and now I'm in much better shape. I've always thought that people stared at me because of my weight, but now when I've lost weight, it seems like people stare at me even more. I'm truly wasting too much time typing these comments, but it really makes me feel better knowing that I'm not alone when it comes to social anxiety and insecurities. I also feel like a huge failure, and it feels like everyone I know is a god a socializing, which makes me feel even worse, knowing that I'm really bad at it. I also stay at home as much as I can, because I simply feel super bad whenever I'm near any people except my family and friends. I really wish you the best of luck, and remember that you're not alone, whatever happens.. Goodluck with everything ;)
Morgan Wheeler (1 month ago)
My solution: Deep breaths and realizing “Nobody cares what you are doing, they are worrying about their own problems!!!” Also if you are presenting, hold on to something firm next to you such as a table, chair, etc.!
Muhammad Abdullah (1 month ago)
i need friend guys
L I N D S A Y (1 month ago)
Whenever I walk in the hallway at school, it always feel likes people are staring at me
Cesar Benitez (1 month ago)
I think it happened because of puberty I’m not sure
Mr. Dynamite (1 month ago)
I am social anxiety ............
Isaac MAIRBENDER (1 month ago)
The only place where I feel confident is with my siblings and the internet.
Juliette (1 month ago)
I just met my friend’s girlfriend for the first time today. She was surprisingly SO nice & open but I was so awkward. I tried my best but when she asked questions I just kept embarrassing myself more every time. It makes me sad because I usually don’t really have girl friends, & she was SO nice & I feel like I screwed this up for myself, once again. I’m homeschooled this year, it’s great, but I feel like I’m not living the same life as others? I feel detached from others, there’s them & then there’s me you know? I have a group of friends that I love, but today we hanged out & I felt like I was invisible or not really wanted, worthless. Like it wouldn’t make a difference if I was here or not. I just keep thinking about it. My friends are all I have & losing them would put me in such a bad mental state. All of this is caused by SOCIAL ANXIETY and i’m sick of it.
Jay Jade (12 days ago)
At least you've friends, just spend your time with your friends and I'm sure you'll get rid of the social anxiety soon.
username19 (1 month ago)
In my case its so worse that whenever someone tries to talk to me I cry and smile at the same time and end up looking like a creepy guy to others which triggers it more
J4mie (1 month ago)
Anyone wanna hmu on Instagram so we can talk and help each other?
Vida de Hannah (1 month ago)
Just pray, I mean these videos are really helping but praying helps too ✨
Seth Hunter (1 month ago)
Knowing yourself is key as well you need to like he said challenge yourself. Talk to people you’d usually be intimidated by that aren’t that important notice what your doing with your hands and breathing notice how fast or loud your talking fix the areas that would make you judge others it’s pretty much forward from there I struggled with the same things and although I still get these anxious feelings i am able to quickly correct them it’s basically being comfortable and in tune with yourself
Manaia King (1 month ago)
I have a group of friends and I recently got social anxiety it wasn’t that bad but after a while is started taking over and I lost a very fun sweet group of friends. I have been trying to get back connected with them and saying things like hi can start conversations with them. And I realize that I’m always over thinking things that are so small like going up to a group of people, who’d I usually hangout with. Sometimes I’ll just go up to them when I see them and try not to think about what may happen. And now I’m starting to spend more time with them.
Sergio Mendez (1 month ago)
meditation rather than medication. And slowly but surely get out of your comfort zone and enjoy life with great friends
Willaxis (1 month ago)
My social axiety is: I have a very fierce teacher in school so I am afraid that he will get angry when he come to the class. Anyone experienced this or is it just me?
Monika plays (1 month ago)
There is a camp coming up.... So many people.... Mum won't be there's..... Parents making me go......all teachers depend on me.....HELP
Monika plays (1 month ago)
I don't go to most of my friend houses because there is this person who just talks and omg she always talks I don't know her...
Monika plays (1 month ago)
I think I have this I didn't go to the mall with my friends because.... I had only two friends going like wth also what if they leave me or what if the others try to talk...
The nice boy (1 month ago)
I have anxiety I’m scared to leave the house😰
I want to be more social in real life so it will help me later on
Mum Mum (1 month ago)
You can seek knowledge how & why people have anxiety & fear from the guidance of the Quran. see this talk by dr Zaid Kasim Ghazawi.
Lilit Mardanyan (1 month ago)
In all these situations I hear my heart beat soo loud , and I can't even walk on the street without thinking bad things, I didn't even know that I have a social anxiety , I thought that I was just shy , so thank you soo much for that hard work ❤️
gigi reyna (1 month ago)
You made me feel so much better and i feel like i can do this
HufflepuffPerson (1 month ago)
Though a lot of my anxiety is because of fear of humiliation, I also seem to not talk to people just because I’m 100% convinced they don’t want to talk to me. I see myself as a total loser, and I don’t want to ruin anyone’s day by talking to them, or making them uncomfortable or something... I just don’t want people that I look up to for being cool and extroverted to not like me, or laugh at me behind my back. Yikes. Edit: I get super embarrassed whenever people talk to me, even if it’s not mean or embarrassing?
name last name (1 month ago)
Tbh im just shy but this helps
buster117 (1 month ago)
Does nofap work?
Your intro reminds me of porn hub
Panda (1 month ago)
thank you for saying its more than just being nervous! a lot of people dont understand how bad it can be. i dont go to parties.. i cant take a train on my own.. eating out alone is not even on the map.. cuz i get panic attacks.. life is lonely.
DireRaven (1 month ago)
Whenever it’s the time to go back to school after a 2-week holiday, I always get severe anxiety. I have school tomorrow (it’s just been a holiday) and I’m scared and I don’t want to go anywhere. Help?
Bandito Burrito (1 month ago)
If it was this simple I would have done it already
Moi Mendoza (1 month ago)
Social anxiety killer = beer
Holy U (1 month ago)
is it possible that i’m so much of a introvert i turned myself into a extrovert i usually stick with my group of friends a small group and don’t interact with many other people but when i do it’s not quiet small interactions i’m what you would call a class clown so i don’t really know what i’d classify myself an introvert with social anxiety secretly being a extrovert with no fear
alligator lover (1 month ago)
What if i never get invited to any social gatherings because i dont have any friends that invite me to places because i dont talk in school due to social anxiety?
Darkflame Studios (1 month ago)
How can I contact you
Darkflame Studios (1 month ago)
Alpha m please I need help. I’m gonna cry bro.
Matt (1 month ago)
My friend once invited me to his birthday party to go paint balling. He had 6 friends going and I didn’t know one of them. It got so bad that I had to lie to him about being sick and didn’t go
Matt (1 month ago)
In school I wanted to choose drama as an option because I was getting really good grades on the written and practical work but I couldn’t because there is a big project at the end where you make a scene with a camera and I just can’t

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