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In today's video, we're going to talk about Cocktail attire for men.
If you receive an invitation that asks for Cocktail attire, the proper thing to do is simply to adhere to it. But what does it really mean? Most of the time, this dress code is used for wedding invitations so let me go over what you should wear if the dress code is cocktail attire for a wedding.
First is you want a dark gray to mid-grey suit. Preferably solid, you can also have a light pattern, a glen check or a shark skin but with solids, you're always right. If you must, Navy works as well. Two, you should have a white dress shirt, maybe off-white, you can also have maybe a white collar shirt with a striped body but it should be somewhat formal. Do not wear brown shirts or purple shirts or turquoise shirts, that just looks awful.
Next up comes the neckwear, you should definitely wear a tie. Maybe a bowtie can get away with it but usually for the wedding, stick with the tie because you don't want to take attention away from the bride and groom. Ideally, what you can wear is a colored tie with a small pattern like the one I'm wearing right now in purple with some paisley or you can wear a solid necktie like the one here, you want some texture like a knit tie like this one is good or maybe you can also wear satin if it's an evening event but I would usually stay away from that and go with something a little more textured.
Since this is a more festive event, you want to go with a pocket square. If you have a white shirt, a white pocket square works. If you have a different colored shirt, use a different kind of pocket square.
For shoes, you should preferably go with black dress shoes, that means leather sole and neatly polished black cap toe Oxford is ideal. If you must, you can also get away with burgundy, try not to go with tan shoes or anything like that. No sneakers, no trainers, black men's dress shoes, please. What's really important is that you wear over the calf socks because you never want to expose your hairy calves to the public so make sure you get over the calf socks that ideally match your trousers and then you'll be just fine. If you want to add a dash of color, you could also use socks that are slightly contrasting, maybe taking up the color of your tie but that's a little more advanced so it's up to you. Make sure you have a good clean hair cut, trimmed at the back. If you have a beard, of course, you want to be well groomed and it's all suppose to look neat. Never wear a tuxedo when the invitation states cocktail attire because that's simply overdressed, it's wrong and it's not an option so if it says "black tie optional", you can wear a tuxedo but when it says "cocktail attire", stick with a suit.
As a general rule, you should always keep in mind that more patterns, more colors make things stand out more so ideally, if you're not quite comfortable yet, just start with one accent piece, either you have a bolder color jacket or you have a strong red or yellow tie. Don't try to mix it all together, try to go one accent piece at a time and if you feel more comfortable, maybe you can add two but never overdo it. Chances are, you already have the core pieces like the jacket, suit, and the shirts in your wardrobe but if you want to create a unique look with that boutonniere, pocket square, and tie, check out our selection of Fort Belvedere things, everything you see here, is available in our shop and much more.
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I have a invite to a wedding reception that falls on Halloween..the couple says you can wear a costume "Optional" I don't want to wear a costume but a suit..though I do have a Venetian mens Hawk mask I bought for a party in Vienna a few years ago...would this be a good option to bridge the gap between suit and costume?
I really appreciated the way you kept underlining the importance of not outshining the bride and the groom, and dress casually if required.
At times, even many reasonable individuals often overlook this simple-important fact.
Thank you for the informative video! You were my go-to reference for a recent cocktail dinner I attended. Your videos and articles are always well researched, thorough, and crystal clear. Keep up the excellent work sir!
Another great video, thank you! :) Have you thought about making a video about winter coats, scarves and stuff like that? It would be great to see and learn something about it, since the winter is coming..
I would say a black or navy velvet sport coat and light grey tousers with black shoes looks great in cocktail party.....once it happened to me and me and my dad wore suits (i wore light grey & dad wore black) and the groom and his father was dressed up casually with blazers......many guests were also in suits......that's the cause of not writing a dress code of invitation card!! :)
I feel like these dresscodes are lost by now. Like actually dressing up when going out or even when being invited to a party at a friends house. When wearing an untucked casual shirt and a pair of chinos with chukka boots makes me the "best" dressed guy in the room, something is wrong.
Granted, I'm in my early 20s so maybe this will change over the years but I don't think I know anybody my age who knows what cocktail attire means, let alone request it on a wedding invitation.
Especially here in Germany I feel like very little thought is put into formal attire. A cheap black suit will do, no matter the occasion.
PeterPwn! Being young and dressing well, at least in our current year, is almost an oxymoron. Books, pictures and google will give you a good idea of what to wear and when. Always buy quality, as much as you can afford, cheap knock offs are an obvious costume. Make sure the clothes fit and don't get sucked into super good deals on very specific items i.e. Purple velvet suits. I use the old rules as guides but they are not written in stone. The only time this changes is when your entering formal society. In these instances there will be a very specific outline of accepted clothing, think royal ascot - you won't get allowed into the royal encousher with the incorrect uniform. Don't let your age pigeon hole your choices when your young it's all correct.
yes I was a former Model back in the 80's for the Ford agency in NYC As I got older as most men do...I said.f%ck it....I wear what I like and what looks good on me...that being said it means ..for me I wear lots of bow ties, suits tweed etc...I found my style niche...I enjoy the English Country style and hunt style to be my forte' Lots of tweed textures driving caps etc......I will wear these to events that I know no one else will ..I always get complements and when you look good you feel good...carry yourself as well as you look...be confident and that combination of confidence and your look no matter how over dressed you are will carry you through....I recently went to Churchill Downs for the Derby ...I wore white n brown saddle shoes, white pants, double breasted navy pinstripe blazer Gold Buttons yellow and blue paisley bow tie....I had tons of Men complimenting me on my style..My wife...as former model herself said wow your getting more compliments than me lol.
You hit the nail on the head there, unfortunately you also hit the nail into your own hand. The stroller suit is to the morning dress as the dinner jacket is to white tie, but even at an evening event, if the dress code is cocktail then you do not wear a dinner jacket and in the same way if is a day time event you don't wear a stroller suit when the dress code is cocktail.
I wouldn't say the stroller suit is out dated, but wearing one is a bold statement, and if you are going to dress in a stroller you must make sure it is at the appropriate event.
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