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I AM INSECURE! Dealing With Feelings Of Insecurity & Inadequacy | How To Feel Better About Yourself

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Michael Iglesias (9 hours ago)
Cmon man top guy like you bitching about media guys
I Am The Marble (1 day ago)
Social media is like alcohol. You’ll get compliments but it’s a nice effect that doesn’t last and that’s when you constantly compare yourself to the image your friends or peers set
jesus marquez (1 day ago)
hey uncle A, I watch your videos just because they make me feel better, your advice is great and even though I'm generally a confident good looking person, I still always have doubts, and i feel trapped in my own mind sometimes, which makes me not feel good :/ you on the other hand always bring out a light in my darkness, and I thank you for that
free mAN (6 days ago)
alpha m subscriberz from india love arino sir you help me lot in life
Diamond Nelson (7 days ago)
I am still in therapy for low self esteem and been like this since I was 8 years old.
Pal Suresh (7 days ago)
You are amazing Alpha you are doing great.👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
An illusion (7 days ago)
You are the best👍
Dheeraj Kumar (8 days ago)
Thanks man
If there is confident there will be insecurity. Confident cannot be there without insecurity... I have face many times.... I don't feel bad anymore because I am not the only one.And thnx for the advices
Zedryk Chua (11 days ago)
Thanks for the advice dad
Viky Li (14 days ago)
Thank you so much
410GoGuard (17 days ago)
I used to be not insecure but some times people can make u feel that way like a bf/gf if the flirt around with other people
Elijah Wallace (17 days ago)
Not to get mushy, just throwing out a thank you. You’ve helped me on my journey to self improvement and living as myself. Thank you, Alpha. I know there are a lot of guys like me that appreciate what you do, don’t forget it.
ro5omax (18 days ago)
You rock! Thank you for all your advice and sincerity.
Tattooed drummer (18 days ago)
Damn, I’d almost not read the comments, but I know you have to
Mrlonelygoat (19 days ago)
These Apha dad talks are the best!
Brian Cho (21 days ago)
Everyone is insecure about something. EVERYONE. It is how you deal w it that counts.
ed f (22 days ago)
He's good. Also, something I've experienced as a photographer is that the other confident photographers, many of whom are working on a professional level, are supportive , humble, and gracious. The insecure egotistical wannabee photographers are the jerks who try to put you down and make you doubt yourself. This is probably true about people in general.
Eden Tesfaye (23 days ago)
Tnx..I was wondering if I was the only one who dealt with insecure feelings but It's like everyone has them so its our duty to overcome them and I'm sure there is power to do that.It's uplifting and amazing to hear this....stay blessed and pls do more videos.
Joshua McAtee (24 days ago)
My issue is number 3, My wife is filled with so much negativity. I wake up in a good mood most days, as she wakes up and starts yelling at our children or me if something isnt perfect. I constantly feel like im not doing enough, and when I do, its not good enough. And when i find things i enjoy doing and she doesnt like than she tells me her issues and if i try to speak about it it turns into an argument, if i continue to do it than i dont care, if i intentionally stop than i feel dissapointment because I cant enjoy something that gives me just a little happiness. Heres an example, she hates videogames. When she was younger she played games like donkey kong, crash bandacoot, but modern games just hates em. So i found a fishing game. Something she actually played the first day i got it. Well last night i sighned up for a bass tournament in the game and it starts at 8am this morning. So i get up, its her day off i let her sleep in. I fed the kids made coffee for her, i dont drink coffee. I sighned into play and start the tournament. She proceds to tell me im going to make her not want to go fishing ever. Like this summer when we go camping. She gave me dirty looks and made me feel like an idiot who shouldnt want to do things like that. Because when she was younger her father used to take her fishing everyday and drink heavely. So me playing a fishing game makes her unhappy. Idk i love her so much i love my kids i love my family. But i feel disposable. Im 26 years old ready to break down crying because how unhappy i feel
Tantei Master (24 days ago)
Damn clicked for the advices, stayed for the feels (and the advices not gonna lie)
didgeteria (25 days ago)
You sure don't look like feeling insecure . I don't feel you know what insecure means ..but might be just me , probably is just me.
John Williams (26 days ago)
I am reminded of all the times I’ve been down and out and of the deep sorrow at the loss of my wife. The darkness can be difficult to overcome sometimes. At times such as these I drop to my knees and thank GOD for all I do have and I stride to endure in the presence of my enemy’s.
Aneka Abarrientos (28 days ago)
thank you so much for this. thank you for letting me know that i am not alone. thank you.
Chris Jones (1 month ago)
I love this channel. Struggling right now with myself. Thank you for showing some vulnerability.
oxer09 (1 month ago)
Damn it Alpha, You got me in tears. Thank you so much for such beautiful tips.
Meowmers (1 month ago)
I look like a boy even though I’m a girl. My friends said I am too stupid because I didn’t know their secret group code word. I’m too scared to talk to people because I’m scared of people bullying me. My interests are dumb. I look like crap. I hate myself.. I will probably get told off here for commenting about myself and talking about me idk why I am even saying this I’m so sorry don’t read this if you don’t want your day ruined I feel bad now sorry person reading this
Abhiram Anand.K (1 month ago)
Ofcource there are other youtubers...but personaly, u know how to nail the presentation and only your vedios works for me most of the time.
Rohit Pradhan (1 month ago)
You are so good awesome 👍
Dan Guitar (1 month ago)
Big thanks to alpha and the ones who have helped me get my self better still i have my insecurity's too, I've become a better person my past addictions are not in my life no more my old friends or people who i thought were my fiends aren't in my life no more. Who ever reads this i hope and pray that you succeed to the highest levels in life three words that inspired me "Never Give Up!"
Nia Long (1 month ago)
Jesus is coming soon. Please repent and ask him into your heart today.
Leopoldo Hernandez (1 month ago)
Always giving good advice 👌🏼
Arreman95 (1 month ago)
I shed a tear at the end. Thank you, alpha m. for being so real and so down to earth. Never stop being you, you are helping me through a tough time right now
Humble Wonder (1 month ago)
This is so stupid. You should feel good simply for being a unique individual not for doing shit that society seems as "good'
NonMercy Gaming (1 month ago)
Thanks Alpha M. ❤️
KDCalifornia panther (1 month ago)
Greatest youtuber of all time. I used to be painfully a nice and insecure guy, but not any more. 😎
Vivek Rawat (1 month ago)
Not similar to every video , this video is very close to me because I too think about insecurities I have and you a badass dude look so genuine in this video , perfect gentlemen , big fan sir 💝
Daniella García (1 month ago)
so i saw this guy 2 days ago in a video abt being short. i click on the video without knowing it was him and i see his face and i just say “oh u pf ofc ur insecure u r lil”
Christopher Rubio (1 month ago)
I workout. I strive to be a good man everyday. I make ok money. I have a girlfriend and man, do I feel so insecure, even in my 30s. I sometimes feel I’m losing my mind. I have it all as a man, for the most part, but I feel unworthy of my girlfriend sometimes and life. It’s hard work. Thanks for sharing this vid.
Husky Gamer 10 (1 month ago)
What if you can’t fix it like height or face shape?
Alric Wong (1 month ago)
I love you alpha
gbw1973 (1 month ago)
Ayush Zaveri (1 month ago)
You're like the elder brother I never had. 38K likes : 240 dislikes. 99.37% of the people love you.
Pooja Bharti (1 month ago)
If in a relationship, the boy has everything like good looks , good degree n rich as well. On the other hand the girl has nothing but still they are in relationship . How to get out of that insecurities that two person of this kind how can be in a relationship. .???
Hector Portillo (1 month ago)
Love your videos man! Always find relevant content. Thank You!
Rocky Ronin (1 month ago)
I know about financail insecurities. i am homeless, in a new city. i had no friends when i got here. ive been going to day labor temp agencies while looking for work. been in this city less than two weeks. boned two chicks (seperately) a few days ago. got others numbers. Yet i still feel insecure when i sleep outside with little to no $. I dont loook homeless, i am clean, i still have my pride & dignity. i am 33 years old and work out. any dude with a nice home and car can pick up chicks, but how i do it is true game. still get depressed sometimes, but i wont give up the fight. latter.
Mike Gilder (1 month ago)
I had a problem at a job in the past where I really liked my supervisor and thought she was the greatest but she treated me different from the other guys ie hardly talked to me at all unless she wanted me to do something or I'd done wrong...after months of feeling not good enough somebody told me that some dick told her in the past that I'd said horrible things about her. Which wasn't true .this made me feel a lot better though cos I thought it wasn't quite me that was the problem it was what she thought I'd said about her months and months before...she shouldve just confronted me about it instead of believing bs 😎
Mike Gilder (1 month ago)
This is great😈
Zach Schoenberger (1 month ago)
You’re the man. Your videos have been very helpful and very informative. Keep up the good work man
I love this video! Before though making changing about yourself, things that are easy to change. I would go through a process of trying to accept it as if It can’t change be changed. If you can’t accept yourself for the way you are, you’ll never be content in the place that you are ❤️
B P (1 month ago)
Great video topic. Helpful, thank you.
PolishCreepers (1 month ago)
Bro much love !! Keep on goin ! Peace
jong suk (1 month ago)
thank you alpha
James Neumann (1 month ago)
Thank you
Neil Supremacy (1 month ago)
I need your help :'( I court a girl, i gave her roses. And i go not contact with her when i started in gym and i let her know that i will talk to her soon. She didnt reply.. later on she posted in FB status saying " Baby I'm coming home". I dont know what to do.. i feel insecurity.. what should i do?
Raleisha Guallaz (2 months ago)
Thank you
Jose Andres Mendez (2 months ago)
U da best
Jay Lewis (2 months ago)
I.LOVE.THIS. GUY. And for a good reason. You said helping others fulfills you, and that's great. I know you are a smart man because you said social media isn't reality. Social media gives us a snapshot of what they want us to see. You're right! When I first saw you I thought here's a well chiseled guy and anything he wears looks great on him. (Like David Becham) Little did I know you have in your life, felt insecure. We are all the same. We are one. Decades ago I heard someone say the computer was the devil. Well, I sorta believe that because your haters throw shade which makes them feel bigger. They are the losers. I appreciate your forum here because you drop jewels on fashion and humanity. Keep up the great work!
Ranger Meme (2 months ago)
I felt bad about myself, but then I’ve been watching your videos and now I’m a really positive person and a better person myself.
Child Of God (2 months ago)
Thanqu alpha. Actually instagram ruined my life I don't love who i am
Namrata Tikader (2 months ago)
The West is far more dependent on material things as compared to the East,I m from India,n it still sucks less when I see my West friends.....lucky me
Can I just tell you... I'm a lady and I love your videos... Thank you
noor sohi (2 months ago)
Thank you for this video ❤️
Home Business University (2 months ago)
“No more romanticizing about how cool it is to be an entrepreneur. It’s a struggle to save your company’s life – and your own skin – every day of the week.” — Spencer Fry, co-founder of CarbonMade
Musa Al Musa (2 months ago)
*Alfa i have watched some of your videos but this one made me feel good about my self. You really have good heart. You are successful alfa male.*
Abraham Chavez (2 months ago)
Love it, great content, subscribed this morning
Gokul Rockz (2 months ago)
You are just amazing
Frank Lloyd Riot (2 months ago)
This is a nice, genuine, vulnerable vid, my friend. Great message. Thank you. Nice work!
Angel Nargancho (2 months ago)
fukkcc eem internet ramblin hoes they just bloodsukkccin ur cum cuz they aint got nothin better to do
Dragon James (2 months ago)
I am happy to be fat
Jace Bunch (2 months ago)
The only person u need to be better than is the person u were yeaterday, that is a quote I heard that sums up what u said
Honey Badger (2 months ago)
Thank you!
Divine Cause (2 months ago)
Love him
Eli Saintnew (2 months ago)
Thank you for helping me.
ANUPAM KUMAR (2 months ago)
Francisco Viancci (2 months ago)
Control the situation don’t let the situation control you !!!! Remember beautiful people everything in this life is psychological!!
A.N.M.R (2 months ago)
Thanks man, your videos honestly help!
Juliana Torres (2 months ago)
I am a woman and I know most of his videos are for men but man I love watching his videos because they are always so motivational, helpful and when I am sad I listen to his videos and it just brings me up. Thanks!
knowlege85 (2 months ago)
Thank you, for putting out these vids. They really do help
Big B- Reacts (2 months ago)
hey man! i absolutely love you as a person, thank you for boosting my confidence! and i want to see more videos like this! i love it and i want to meet you in person someday! you're awesome! again thank you thank you thank you thank you!
someasiankid (2 months ago)
idk ho-w to fix my smile
Nick (2 months ago)
You are awesome Bro... Never let the hatter's stop you... You make impact on my life!!
Titusv Velasques (3 months ago)
Great video, trying to reach the ultimate goal.
Paul Markus (3 months ago)
Fire Soul (3 months ago)
Well, my insecurity is my skin color, horrendous personality, and my ugly face. Any help? Please
robert rios (3 months ago)
You’re badass dude. I love your videos. Haters gonna hate. They put you down to pull themself up. I’m insecure due to past hurts and unfortunately it cost me a recent relationship. But they great thing is that I learned what my insecurities are and how to fix them. Nothing is a failure if you learn from it and adjust
L.H.C (3 months ago)
Really admire your work and your words, help me to get clarity inside my head. Keep going!
Mica Landero (3 months ago)
I am sooooo insecure. Hate it!
Wesly Diaz (3 months ago)
My girlfriend has a boybestfriend and that boy and my girlfriend has a chitchat conversation 3 years ago. We are in the different school but the same city, but my girlfriend wants him to be a bestfriend and i am insecure.
Wesly Diaz (3 months ago)
Help me outttt
madhur thapliyal (3 months ago)
This man is really a true person ..... He speaks from his heart n never show off
Zee Flicks (3 months ago)
Thank you so much dude :) Thank you so much ❤️❤️
Sundaram Rajat (3 months ago)
you're doing a great job sir.... hige respect for you!! Regards
Harry Twigg (3 months ago)
Thank you
B S (3 months ago)
lol you're like the cool Michael Scott. OR Michael Scott's cool looking twin brother
Fergus Murdoch (3 months ago)
Alpha, I grew up with a father until I was 16, but I never had a dad. I never remember having a real conversation with him. You teach me and help me so much. Thanks
Frank J (3 months ago)
Thank you alpha, you help me every day with your videos.
Reaper Royal11 (3 months ago)
Thank you...you have truly helped me throughout even the toughest times.
Butterfly (3 months ago)
I'm insecure about my goddamn existence. l'm literally the most unnecessary person I know. I'm not good at anything I do, I'm ugly af, I'm boring, I'm weird, I'm probably corny af and I just fucking suck man... I'm instable too. I don't want to live but I'm too weak to end my life.
Elijah Lindsey (3 months ago)
Help people yes,best advice ever
Atak_Development (3 months ago)
Your amazing man. Thanks a lot for your help💪🏽

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