On this episode of Style Out There, our host, Connie Wang, takes us to Tokyo to meet the individuals pioneering the Harajuku subculture of Kawaii, more specifically Yami Kawaii. This style of fashion accentuates cuteness while incorporating symbols that represent death. Watch this episode of Style Out There to delve deeper into this morbid trend in Tokyo!
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aw I love it! I dont care for blood stuff anymore or death theme stuff. bones and things. I still love black. black and pink together or black and any color is super hot!!!! I love, happy place. not the hell place. death and rebirth. living life is awesome.
I love speaking up for mental illness and advocating but I can never get behind a cute anime girl who cuts herself as a mascot....it’s like these people are making fun of everything I’ve went through and what thousands have went through....
Girl: This is so cute what does it say?
Man: I wanna die...
Me: Perfect where do I get one!
No, but really. I have been struggling a lot with depression and suicide. If we did this in America, we would be taken to a mental hospital. If you have a problem in America they think you are crazy. People never take me seriously. Just remember. I am there for you.
My style is a satanic goth! I love kawaii and the alternative world! Yaaaaaaaaass girl! You be you!!!! No more hiding who you are!I want to find these outfits in America!!!!!! I want to try Yumi Kawaii! It feels like this is not only a way to let others be aware of mental illnesses but also express yourself!
Elements of the same issues in Japan are in America. If anyone says that these people would get more help in America, I would be hard-pressed to flat out agree.
In one way, I'd say having a style, a platform for people who share the same mindset can feel seen and feel included is a good thing, but I also believe this can be very harmful. Adding "cute" things to something wicked or destructive is how people become enabled, desensitized, and usually placated. They get ATTENTION and temporarily sated, but do not get help and perhaps even be perceived by people on the outside as "okay", "normal", and "happy".
Think of extremes like incels, pro-anorexia groups, Hikikomori, etc. People of the same issues become enabled by people of the same issues. I've seen this in art communities. One fandom I've seen this in is the Furry fandom. I'm an outsider who ended up researching and scouting among some online forums only to find people who already had serious mental health issues are enabled rather than helped in this fandom (and no, not all people or all of the fandom is negatively impacted). Some people are enabled because they now have this fursona that they escape behind. They spend more effort and energy supporting their online persona/fursona because it gets them attention rather than seeking help. I was very put off with how this fandom is open and inclusive, yet some people exhibited awful online etiquette by being overtly sexual, putting all of their personal identity out into the world, and especially dumping their emotional strife onto strangers or anyone who will listen.
I'm not here to bitch about the Furry fandom. (It has it's place for people, it DOES help people, and it's a way of expression.) I only offer it as one example of seeing how these "labels", "groups", "fashions", etc can sometimes enable people the wrong way rather than helping them. It's a really sad thing. I myself have depression/anxiety but have been to counseling for almost a year trying to find myself again. The world has populated so quickly, has so much outside stimulation, and people are seen as one ant of a million, that we become numb to our own internal lack of peace, we forget to breathe, and we wonder why we feel alone when we ARE one in a million.
America/ Western countries' "support system" doesn't work. I'm from America and I feel much better about life living in Japan than I did in America. In America, in New York, is where I had to hide things or be ostracized. Therapists never helped me - they either overprescribed medication, or told me things like it's my fault, or that I could only feel better by going vegan. I feel just about the opposite of everything people always say about Japan being "all conformist except for those weird goth people" (and you can't pretend this video isn't condescending), etc. In Japan, there are a lot of different subcultures and the kind of diverse art that no one would allow in America. ... I've also had a lot of suicide attempts, and I still want to die pretty much constantly, but in Japan, I feel like there can be a future for me, and for the art that I want to create, in ways that America or Western countries would never allow.
Sorry but it's time for Japanese to wake up.
by watching this video I really think that the Japanese live in another dimension ... This is what leads to the confinement of society and of oneself.
This "Yami kawai" is absolutely not the way out of depression, heal or denounced depression, society ...
It is even worse, it is to lie to oneself, to imagine a bubble, a world that is absolutely not suited to them, since it contains&
have "decorations" which reminds suicide, death ... I do not see what is worse than that ...
The clearest example of what they do is like breaking things and hiding them under a carpet...
They must consulted doctors, if there is not in Japan, travel.
The problem is that they want to live in "their tranquility", the more time passes, the worse their conditions and that leads to isolation, lack of emotion, of life, then begins depression, emptiness, obscure ideas , rejection of everything ... then suicide.
We are in 2019, the Japanese do not know that young people is the future, do not they know that in many countries thanks to young people, the mores of their countries have change thanks to them. It is not always saying the same thing that things will move "society is like this or like that", society is also them. It's simple, if you do not agree, show and let yourself be heard that you are not agree.
The others are the others, you are you. Being excluded, so what? Do you live for others? The world is not big enough?
I’d give her a cat if I was her husband. It’s something that brings her happiness and joy and keeps her from falling back into depression. Plus your giving the animal a life it deserves. Such a small price to pay to save someone’s life.
I think there's also some other dimensions to this...for example, people refuse to take you seriously if you're "cute," it is frustrating and maddening, so I think a bit of rebellion and anger is natural. Nobody hears you or takes you seriously, in your younger life, and they keep shutting you down and your thoughts and ideas....well, that would lead to depression and repressed anger. When you are not allowed to be yourself and are just told you're cute...this is a way to fight back. Maybe the grandparents who witnessed the atomic bombs, have no time for the younger generations' "problems" ....
Idk why but in the middle of this video I just started getting teary eyed for these people. Although there are no resources for them since mental illness is considered taboo, their escapism or therapy like fashion can help them cope. I was in awe. I really hope these people find happiness one day.
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