http://www.BreakupBrad.com -- How to Respond To Your Ex's Texts and Phone Calls
What’s up everyone, this is Brad Browning... in this video, I’m going to explain what you should do when your ex calls or texts you. If your goal is to reverse the breakup and get a second chance with your ex, then you definitely need to be prepared and know how to handle things when he or she inevitably reaches out to you.
In case you’re wondering who I am, I’m a relationship coach, and I specialize in breakups and helping couples fix their broken relationships… you may have heard of The Ex Factor Guide, which is a best-selling program I’ve developed to help men and women around the world re-unite with an ex. If you want more info on this comprehensive system, visit my website, www.BreakupBrad.com, after you watch this video.
OK, let’s move on to another important piece of advice. Since you’re watching this video, I’m assuming you’re set on rekindling things with your ex… and that means you’re also probably checking your phone every 15 seconds, anxiously hoping that he or she will have called or sent a text. That’s perfectly natural… and it’s what your ex will be expecting you to be doing. But sitting around staring at your phone waiting for your ex to send you a message also reeks of desperation… and, if you want your ex back, the last thing you need is for them to think you’re a desperate loser sitting at home waiting for their call.
As a result, I actually advise the majority of my clients to ignore any calls or texts from their ex in the first few weeks after a breakup. Even a month or more after the initial breakup, you need to make sure your ex understands that you’re not sitting around waiting for their call… you want them to think you’re out living life to the fullest, having fun, dating new people, and so on… and one way to clearly give that impression is to miss your ex’s calls and texts.
How does this play out in the real world? Let’s say, for example, that your ex sends you a text message at 10am on Saturday asking if he or she can pick up the some clothes that they left at your house. Instead of quickly responding to this text, you wait until 8pm that night, and then you respond by saying something like:
“Hey, sorry for the slow reply, I was out hiking with a friend all day… I’ve got plans tonight and I’ll be at work most of the day tomorrow, so maybe you can swing by to pick them up on Monday or Tuesday. Call me Monday and we can figure it out. Anyway hope all is well with you, bye for now!”
By saying this, you’re still responding to your ex’s initial question, and you’ve been polite and friendly… but you’ve also hinted that you’re super busy, you’ve left things a bit mysterious by mentioning you were hiking “with a friend” and that you’ll be “out late tonight”... even if this isn’t 100% truthful, you don’t have to lie to your ex, you can simply be ambiguous and leave out the details so their imagination can fill in the blanks. Trust me, you’d be amazed at how well this technique works to get your ex interested in you again.
Now, this sort of delayed response to your ex’s message or call is only necessary if he or she actually has something to say to you… if their voicemail or text message is essentially meaningless… if they’re simply saying hi and asking what you’re up to, or commenting on something unimportant… then you don’t need to both responding at all. This is really difficult for a lot of people, but ignoring messages or calls from your ex is extremely powerful because it can really open their eyes to the fact that you’re no longer a part of their life and you won’t be around any time they want to chat.
I know you may be wondering how the hell you can possibly apply this technique to your situation, especially if things are complicated and you can’t simply cut your ex out of your life completely… I’ve covered all of this stuff in my Ex Factor program, and you can also learn more about how to adapt this strategy to your unique scenario by watching the free video on my website, BreakupBrad.com. That’s www.BreakupBrad.com.
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